So yeah, i'm now slowly remembering how ILIs are a very....different bunch. But different is good.
I've made a couple posts about me (a presumed SEE) starting a relationship with an ILI. It's been a couple weeks now since we've been "together," but i'm not even sure if it's okay for me to use that word (I know she would probably flip out if i did!)
Basically, to sum things up:
*She wants to take baby steps, I want to dive right into this thing.
*She constantly makes inferences that it probably isn't going to last very long, I constantly make inferences that we're going to be together for a long time (e.g. joking about marriage and kids, which makes her FLIP, [note: but it's so much fun to make her flip!]). In these situations her eyes get really wide and she like stares off into nothing and says "You're thinking WAAAY too far ahead again....."
*An example from a conversation today....
Her: I'm not sure you should get your hopes up....
Me: Why??? Don't you like me???
Her: It's not that I don't like you, it's just that I think you like me a lot more than I like you..... (she quickly realizes that this is really mean and hurt my feelings, although I ACT a lot more hurt than I really am, because it's fun and easy to act emotions in front of her)
Me: ....wait....so....you're saying YOU LIKE ME??? <3<3 (i begin hugging her and showing affection)
Her: (tries her best to get away but can't because i'm stronger. PWND.)
*later on I asked her, "Can I get a signed affidavit saying that you like me?" She replied quickly and sarcastically, "I'm not leaving a paper trail...."
But yeah, I know a lot of my uncertainty about us has to do with
Role Function, and a lot of her hesitance to really establish us as "together" has to do with her
PolR, but damn, I really can't wait to crack this nut....
I can wait it out though. It's totally worth it and it's not really getting me down. In fact, I like the challenge. Speaking of which, I really really doubt anyone can truly get an ILI to be really emotionally attached other than an SEE (and only then after LOTS of hard work). She said she's dated a few other guys while she's been in town and they've all ran away after a short while or she got weirded out by them or something.... But yeah, it's really fucking hard and I doubt anyone else has this kind of determination or derives this much enjoyment from all the little petty ILI-isms as I do....
It's like I told her on the phone earlier:
"You're not very nice...."
"(defensively) Well, I'm not trying to be mean, it's just that I think you're taking this thing way too fast...."
"Don't worry about it. It actually encourages me when you put up a fight like this"
"BUT I'M TRYING TO DISCOURAGE YOU"
[we both kind of get a laugh at this and I'm reassured because I know that deep down she's a softy]
Yeah... sorry for the long winded rant. Hope yall learned something from it....