Quote Originally Posted by UDP III
I imagine ESTp possessiveness comes into play here.

Real relationship material at first seems heavily J, that is, rational, commitment, solid, etc. But there must be something beyond that, because even J types struggle with it. There is likely a sincere balance between rational and irrational elements in both people's psyches one way or another, if they are to be a truly lasting relationship.
The key is to distinguish "solid" from "boring"

aywany, maybe my first post was misunderstood

what happened both times was that me and INFp started dating for a while.

INFp suddely stops replying to sms-s/me asking her out. So I am pushy for a short while, and then think, whatever, do what you want. After one month INFp comes back but I don't want people that do that shit so I refuse.