intj's can't get over things because they kinda like to plod through, they analyze and hold grudges. an intj in my family has decided at age 41 that all women are feminist bitches and that the entire planet has become deluded with feminist ideas. his personal mission is to tell everybody how the entire planet has become positively biased toward the feminine. and he wonders how it is that he can't maintain a relationship. so his grudge is against all women. if he looked at himself then he would see that he is the problem not women. (nothing against intj's in general though, just him :wink: )

but you know what? no one gets over important losses in less than a year. that's just how much time it takes. how much they show that is another question, but people really are not over significant losses in less than a year.