Well I've been with my ENFj for about a week.... Ah the absence of duality is EVERYWHERE. The world seems to be transiting into one long tunnel of activity which my significant predetermines for me via her . I feel like I'm faced with one line straight ahead not of my own making....
She's not very playful.... If I do something spontaneous she asks "WHAT?", as though "what's the point?"
She's cuddly, but very procedural about it. It's as though she has subroutines for everything. If you try to do something she doesn't have subroutines for, then she gets confused.
Moreover, these subroutines are pure . It's as though she must do everything according to social sanction. Anything suggested that is less so sactioned, or ambiguiously sanctioned, makes her uncomfortable.
The weak shows in her cooking. Everything she fixes is either too light on taste or too heavy on it. This was especially evident when she took me to a picnic at her uncle's house. Her uncle was an ESFj and the difference in cooking quality was AMAZING....
That's really all the complaints I have. The is tender, and the only reason she's so conforming is her youth. She doesn't yet know who she is....
Besides that, any advice?
Oh, and she spoils every movie we watch that she has already seen. So easy to see how an ISTj would love an ENFj partner.