"love is our response to our highest values-and can be nothing else...let him profess that love is not self-enjoyment but self-denial, that virtue consists, not of pride, but of pity or pain or weakness or sacrifice, that the noblest love is born, not of admiration, but of charity, not in response to values, but in response to flaws....if he believes that flaws are values, he has damned existence as evil and only the evil will attract him." ayn rand