Originally Posted by
William
I think you're way off base, but I'm putting in the effort to type out a detailed response to at least explain my perspective in hopes it will make sense:
From this first part I quoted, I got the impression from Ver that the problem was her mother-in-law taking the child away without asking for permission or anything first. It has nothing to do with issues with letting others hold the child. I got the impression she lets others hold the child, but she doesn't like it when the child is taken from her without her knowing about it, or having asked permission first.
A lot of things are wrong. Taking a child from a mother against her own will is horrible. It's not just in humans but common among the animal kingdom for mothers/father to protect newborn children at all costs, even from other family members who unwarrantedly approach the child.
For example, check out this video where other chimps try to take the babies away from the mother unasked for, and how much effort the mother puts into fleeing, even getting hit herself, in order to try to protect her babies:
That's an extreme example where they are being attacked. But consider how much love even other species can have for newborns in this video, where a doberman protects a baby from another dog, even when there's no threat of danger:
And I could find other examples but I hope you get the point. Being protective of her child and not wanting someone to simply take her baby without asking is a valid feeling and demand.
First, if the mother-in-law was really trying to be a good grandmother, she would at least ask to hold the baby before just taking it away. It's good she wants to spend time with the baby, but she's being incredibly disrespectful towards the mother's boundaries. Taking a child away while the mother is in the shower, to show to the neighbors, creates a scary situation for no reason. The mother comes out of the shower to find her child missing with no clue where they are.
Second, not sure where you came to the conclusion that Ver was considering a divorce. It was suggested by consentingadult and I suggested it, but nowhere really did I see Ver acknowledge that she was really considering it.
Third, it's quite a stretch to suggest seeing a counselor to someone or call them a "pussy", simply because you don't understand or relate to their feelings or situation.
Actually, I think it's incredibly relevant that you don't have children yourself. You're making the accusation against a mother that she's "fucking insane" because her love for her child is too much in your eyes, when you have never personally had that bond with your own child. You never had the love for your own child overwhelm you to a point where you care for everything about them and very little about yourself. You have never had the scare to know what it's like to find your child, your beloved baby, is suddenly missing, and you have no clue where they are.
All of these feelings are incredibly relevant and human. And you dare suggest to Ver that she sees a counselor because she's insane? I find that appalling. You are operating way outside of your element, Scapegrace, without much credibility as a mother yourself.
Just because you don't truly understand someone else's perspective, does not mean that the other person is a "pussy" or "insane" or "out of whack" or "oversensitive". You should really think twice before judging and making assumptions about someone going through an experience that you've never personally dealt with before.
As I've explained, there is nothing wrong with her feelings. Even if there were, the manner in which you decided to put down someone else's feelings is rather questionable. And when is it really good to tell someone what they're FEELING is wrong?
Don't make me link more animal videos. I can link a lot more of them!
Lol. This is just so naive it's laughable. When people have their 1st-born child, it always changes them. Often in ways they didn't expect. You're an idiot for not just judging someone in something you have absolutely no experience in, but actually putting them down and trying to make them feel bad enough emotionally so they go see a 'counselor' or 'doctor'. That's vicious, cynical, and above all retarded.