I'm wondering about the possibility of me being an unhealthy EIE or perhaps not an EIE at all? I have introverted tendencies but i don't know if it's just natural or if I was affected externally that caused me to become 50/50 on E/I scale.
Here are some things that i worry about:
-I know when to speak up in a conversation (giving my opinion) but i normally keep my mouth shut because I don't like talking about shallow things. School, sports, or "My boyfriend dumped me" topics disinterests me. Waste my breath trying to make small talk.
-I don't have too many friends as no one meets much of my needs. I like to hang around people of my age and tend not to mesh myself with people younger than me or older than me because I know my place. Well y'know what I mean, i don't want to disturb them or affect their growth or anything. It's not like i have anything to offer them that is of interest to them =.=. People have nothing to offer for me either...well except nerds. I like to have nerds as friends because they're the only ones who can have a decent conversation. Intellectualizing <--love this thing. Just talking about the "what ifs" and the implications of situations. Most of my good friends are Introverted NT's, they're good for discussion but they don't satisfy my needs still.
I keep on saying satisfying my needs because I always ignore them, i think that other people have needs that are much greater than mine. Like seriously if i compare my needs to a dying child in africa, who's more important? Well obviously theirs. This is an extreme example but you get the point. By saying that I have to satisfy my needs* it makes me look a little too selfish. I don't like being selfish but i don't want to neglect myself either, and i have constant battle a guilty in myself.
Like if i don't talk to that person, i should be sorry because could be giving them a good time. Or if i see like I'm ignoring everyone, i should be sorry becuz I have to fix myself first before being all happy/jump. Selfish, everything boils down to selfishness and i hate that.
-I'm also quite aware of how I affect others with my words. I really don't want to offend anyone and I don't want to get offended either so I'd prefer that i don't say anything. Sometimes i wonder if someone could get pissed by just having me say a couple words, maybe they hate me o.o (well i don't know about that). Maybe I'm paranoid? Or unhealthy...problem..
I do try to strive for win-win situations but sometimes playing mr. "keep it all together guy" doesn't work anymore and i should just lash out at them if they keep pissing me off. I have an SLE brother and he's like the most useless guy ever, i could make a whole other thread bashing on my SLE brother but I'll do that another time. It doesn't take a stretch to understand him because he's too simple, selfish and just wants it his way all the time. So i doubt that he's an ISTP. Perhaps he's the cause of all my problems, coming home everyday and facing this useless piece of shit just drives me nuts.
Usually when i get into an argument, i don't stay mad for too long. Sometimes i just forget about it when the other person starts being nice again, but it bugs me because I don't want to forget what they've done wrong. I want to stay mad and go against my personality (if I'm actually an EIE) so I'll treat them the way they DESERVE it. It's hard however to stay angry at a person for long, because all they want to do is be nice and again to have you listen to "Oh how their day was" or "Oh on this game i got this item" or "Wow y'know today there was this retarded guy" like holly fucking shit why do i have to keep listening to their problems if they won't listen to mine?
I'm so self-conscious that someone might get disinterested in hearing me speak, or maybes that is fear or something? But how i deal with this is just filter them out from the potential friend pool.
-I've seemed to not care too much about always having someone to talk to while passing the time because it's really pointless. At the end of the day, whoever you talked to was just...small talk o.o. There's no point, so wouldn't it be more wise to spend some time alone an reflect about yourself? , it's better to reflect on what you want as a friend rather than securing yourself socially with retards. Seriously if you really wanted to be in a group, get misunderstood, waste time explaining yourself, and then repeating it. What's the point? Being alone isn't bad especially if no one can understand you.
-Most of the time I'm very reserved in emotions, i don't like to express myself too much because I believe that as a guy I'm responsible for my own emotions. If it affects other people in a negative way, it's my fault and i shouldn't have done it in the first place. Correct right? But it makes me look so serious, detached, and melancholic. Maybe that has a more negative affect on people around me? How the hell am i suppose to find an ISTJ girl friend if this keeps happening. I don't see myself much as always happy guy and much less a leader.
The thing about me being a leader, I'm not like the guy who says "Go do that please, and "this is how it's going to be, you do this that, dat blabalbal ya". I kind of like to work with my group and not say that I'm a leader but I do play a role in getting the job done. In a sense i don't like to call myself a leader because i normally don't lead in something that I'm not knowledgeable in.
-Every day i will go about reflecting on my life, my dreams, my family, my future, beliefs, Christianity. Each day will be a repeat of that
-I don't like the unknown, it makes me a little nervous if I don't know how to plan for it next. Kind of like if i don't know what my English Teacher expects of me in an essay, i get a little nervous
-I have this thing where I often scare myself thinking that i can't do something or if I think of a bad situation that could happen. Real weird
But overall I seem like an introvert but I really have no clue what this could all mean? Am I an unhealthy EIE? If not please tell me what an unhealthy EIE is like and what my subtype could be.