I've heard this so many times, and I'm still not getting it. Please explain to me how on earth you think you get to "wear the pants".
I've heard this so many times, and I'm still not getting it. Please explain to me how on earth you think you get to "wear the pants".
Easy Day
What makes you think you do?
But, for a certainty, back then,
We loved so many, yet hated so much,
We hurt others and were hurt ourselves...
Yet even then, we ran like the wind,
Whilst our laughter echoed,
Under cerulean skies...
I have a top hat.
*ka-tshin!*
I don't think of default roles either way. Whatever works at the time. I can't help but starting shit with anyone who thinks otherwise.
Maybe I'm not truly down with Beta. You're the master, I'm the gimp victim.. in asschaps. Right?
Following IEI's point above, the driver is in charge as long as the fuel decides it will let the car run, if that makes sense. The primary control rests with the petrol. The driver gets to decide where to go after the petrol decides they will go.
Of course, you should assume sentience on the fuel's part.
If somebody genuinely wants the other person to make the decisions, and be the independent one then ironically, they're actually being independent themselves lol.Decision making, direction, the ability to live life independently, and I have my own tailor. Top that.
It's not really 'dependence' in the unhealthy way that people think of it is, if the woman *wants* the man to fuck her while she lies there helplessly lol. She's really being just as independent as the man, ergo, people who talk about 'independent/dependence/co-dependence' bore me because it's like they're not allowing submissives to be well, submissive.
If everybody was narcissistically independent I'd be so fucking bored god I'd kill myself if everybody was just all avoid-y that way.
If it's a girl, it's because they apparently run this mutha. see: Beyonce.
If it's a guy, it's because we IEIs know best in all situations and any attempt to evade our superior knowledge will end in failure anyhow.
Not a rule, just a trend.
IEI. Probably Fe subtype. Pretty sure I'm E4, sexual instinctual type, fairly confident that I'm a 3 wing now, so: IEI-Fe E4w3 sx/so. Considering 3w4 now, but pretty sure that 4 fits the best.
Yes 'a ma'am that's pretty music...
I am grateful for the mystery of the soul, because without it, there could be no contemplation, except of the mysteries of divinity, which are far more dangerous to get wrong.
I'm not avoid-y.. or narcissistic.
..
Ok, maybe the latter a little bit..
I don't want to avoid and be bitchy like that though. I like to move in instead. Admittedly, I think there's something kind of wrong with me in how I confront people who try to dominate. I don't get a lot out of it, for one. I could get killed sometimes. I just resent whatever birthright so-called dominating people think they have - and would rather see them do something first. I don't like to defer to the obvious, played-out, chest beating "hot"/awesome/giant cock cartoonish fool standing in the room. Fuck that shit. It's vanity. Not power. It's like the Matrix movies, man.. I see through all of this shit. Something's wrong.
And if Betas are so hung up on heirarchy and power that they just instantly send out their "Fe" in these situations, then fuck all of them too. Whoever or whatever that is, it's a neverending source of disappointment to me. I can't stand cowards..more than the actual assholes trying to control me.
This will always be my favorite Beta. The world is full of popes with their "by fiat" declarations of awesomeness, demanding you suck their dicks because God said so. And I think it's more admirable to tear their pictures up, not stand for abuse, no matter how many people hate you for it or try to rationalize this bullshit.
I wouldn't mind her wearing the pants btw.
But, for a certainty, back then,
We loved so many, yet hated so much,
We hurt others and were hurt ourselves...
Yet even then, we ran like the wind,
Whilst our laughter echoed,
Under cerulean skies...
At my job there is an IEI-Fe/SLE-Ti roommate pair. The IEI very clearly wears the pants. The SLE is somewhat quiet, not shy but understated; the IEI is a laconic, gregarious hipster socialite.
But, for a certainty, back then,
We loved so many, yet hated so much,
We hurt others and were hurt ourselves...
Yet even then, we ran like the wind,
Whilst our laughter echoed,
Under cerulean skies...
Here's why you are dumb
1.) In the context of this metaphor an IEI is fuel. Fuel =//= oil company in the same way that crack =//= crack dealer. If you really wanted an oil company to exist in this metaphor it would more likely be the IEIs overbearing parents (or possibly a friend who introduced us (because they created and supplied the IEI)), not the IEI itself.
2.) It is in an oil companies best interest to keep me dependent on them and never, and i do mean not once, would it be in an oil companies best interest to completely cut me off. IF they do any number of things could go wrong (aside from them losing money) I could learn to do without or find something better (solar power?).
3.) If my car was permanently lacking fuel I could still push it places, or convert it into a metal buggy and get a donkey, or blow it up for funzies, or make a playground for the children. The point is a car without fuel is useful albeit not in the way originally intended but fuel without a car is a puddle or maybe a fire starter.
You know what? Fuck it. As long as I get to be the hero of the story I don't care who writes it.
Easy Day
Why do you have to be "the" hero?
I'm going to pat myself on the back for a sec, and say I just say I did my heroic deed for the day. I went to the store to just get a drink, and this dude and his girl were sitting outside and asked if I could give them a lift down the road. They missed the last bus route and had been walking for hours already. They had stopped at the store because the girl was puking. I ended up driving them all the way home instead of where they asked.. saving them a 3 or 4 hour walk. My type doesn't stop me from this. Or in the rest of life. I'm not always jumping into situations and looking for it, but I try to be cool. I'm not some useless sack of "Type 4" IEI fagginess that needs an SLE to give me and everyone the "stars". We all can be someone's hero, every once in awhile.
Or maybe I should type myself SLE, after all. I want to be a hero of the story.. I don't care what type it is.
Look, buddy, you want us to type you make a type thread otherwise I'm getting sick of reading about you interjecting your life story almost every post for the last few days. Cool, you like to tell stories that involve you, we all do sometimes, but can you try to make a thread for 'em instead of just littering them all over the forum?
Easy Day
lol, "buddy". Fuck you then.
You're no SLE. They like my stories. And it's not about me. I was trying to clue you in on what helping people actually is. All you care about is being "the" hero, but in your mind, it's just about being dominate and having a personal tailor. lol
You're a boring, egotisical ENTj or ESTj btw. I wasn't quite sure at first, but you snapped on my efficiency in communication yesterday like Ashton does. And you can't even begin to understand silverchris. It stunk of supervision.
It could however be in the best interest of the heads of state of the countries who produce the oil to completely cut you off, in theory.
Anyway, IEIs are awesome.
I'd feel comfortable "wearing the pants" in my areas of expertise. And a lot of the time, even though IEIs aren't necessarily naturally good at telling others what to do, if you're the one who has the vision and knows the steps to accomplish it, sometimes it's faster to just tell other people what to do yourself than to sit and wait to convince a "leader" of exactly what should be done.
And perhaps it's just a case of an IEI wanting someone to recognize our capacity to lead from the backseat. I find that I play a very important role in how something turns out just by my attitude and the energy I put out there, you know? Maybe the wear the pants thing is just a plea for recognition of the subtle things IEIs do that have a huge impact on the overall atmosphere/results.
Not a rule, just a trend.
IEI. Probably Fe subtype. Pretty sure I'm E4, sexual instinctual type, fairly confident that I'm a 3 wing now, so: IEI-Fe E4w3 sx/so. Considering 3w4 now, but pretty sure that 4 fits the best.
Yes 'a ma'am that's pretty music...
I am grateful for the mystery of the soul, because without it, there could be no contemplation, except of the mysteries of divinity, which are far more dangerous to get wrong.
Not a rule, just a trend.
IEI. Probably Fe subtype. Pretty sure I'm E4, sexual instinctual type, fairly confident that I'm a 3 wing now, so: IEI-Fe E4w3 sx/so. Considering 3w4 now, but pretty sure that 4 fits the best.
Yes 'a ma'am that's pretty music...
I am grateful for the mystery of the soul, because without it, there could be no contemplation, except of the mysteries of divinity, which are far more dangerous to get wrong.
Not a rule, just a trend.
IEI. Probably Fe subtype. Pretty sure I'm E4, sexual instinctual type, fairly confident that I'm a 3 wing now, so: IEI-Fe E4w3 sx/so. Considering 3w4 now, but pretty sure that 4 fits the best.
Yes 'a ma'am that's pretty music...
I am grateful for the mystery of the soul, because without it, there could be no contemplation, except of the mysteries of divinity, which are far more dangerous to get wrong.
I'm really just very confused at this point.
Not a rule, just a trend.
IEI. Probably Fe subtype. Pretty sure I'm E4, sexual instinctual type, fairly confident that I'm a 3 wing now, so: IEI-Fe E4w3 sx/so. Considering 3w4 now, but pretty sure that 4 fits the best.
Yes 'a ma'am that's pretty music...
I am grateful for the mystery of the soul, because without it, there could be no contemplation, except of the mysteries of divinity, which are far more dangerous to get wrong.
He's posted videos before over at Socionics.com, at least over a year ago, and I'm pretty sure he's SLE>>>SEE. You can argue against this, of course
You're a boring, egotisical ENTj or ESTj btw. I wasn't quite sure at first, but you snapped on my efficiency in communication yesterday like Ashton does. And you can't even begin to understand silverchris. It stunk of supervision.
EII INFj
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Well, he's an asshole, either way. I don't appreciate people who are so dull as to think my telling stories is simply that.. and not getting the actual point out of them. And secondly, critiquing how people structure their posts. If he's an SLE, he's no fun.
You strike me ESI stray, no doubt about it.
Haha.You're a boring, egotisical ENTj or ESTj btw. I wasn't quite sure at first, but you snapped on my efficiency in communication yesterday like Ashton does. And you can't even begin to understand silverchris. It stunk of supervision.
Agreed, that wasn't what I was trying to say. It's just every time I bring this up in person it goes something like this.
Me: I'm so the pant's wearing, decision making man in charge of this relationship.
IEI: *sarcastically* Yeah, sure you are.
Me: *pouts* But I wanna be the man!
and I just can't let it go, I WANNA BE THE MAN! >.<
Easy Day