This is admittedly a complicated question. And i guess i could address explaining it by asking two further questions:

what do you consider your personal identity? and, how much/in what ways do your mental proclivities determine your decisions?

i feel like the other factors people list as affecting relationships--economic status, education, religion, etc-- don't really address this question

er maybe they do though? The kind of answer I'm looking for is more of the process that goes into decision making before they even have the opportunity to manifest in religion or other demographic labels.. if we said that they'd indeed affect your identity..

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