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Last edited by cookie123; 02-14-2021 at 05:09 PM.
Sounds pretty Sx-firstm I'm not sure about the Sp blindspot though. Tell me a little more about your past relationships, have you always been in one?
C-EII-INFj 4w3 Sx/sp 479
this is also how i experience my sp-blindspot. i also relate to both your descriptions of how the social instinct (and its issues) manifest in your life as well as the sx instinct.
@cookie123, your description seems pretty similar to the way I experience the world. I'm not sure that everything you mentioned is enneagram-related, but a lot of it probably is.
I was struck by your statement that sp-last will sacrifice material security to pursue sx-passions. I do that all the time. Very constructive and insightful.
I also Lol'ed at your comment, "I felt like I could've put up with his bad habits." I feel that way about a lot of relationships, because who doesn't have bad habits? However, on the good advice of @wacey, I'm holding out for someone amazing.
I'm sx/so, so the way I'm searching for the certain someone (sx) is to use my extensive social contacts (so), which is basically what @Medusa said about how we are most competent in our second instinct, and use it to fulfill our greatest-need first instinct.
Money and things (sp) are not at all important to me. I could lose it all and I'd just start over. But a good relationship with one great person (sx) is what I want and need before anything else. I'm effortlessly able to navigate social waters (one guy called me the most politically savvy person he'd ever met), but I don't seek out groups. I can live with or without crowds, although I do like people and get depressed when I haven't had my dose of them, but that could be my extreme extroversion talking.
The way you've struggled with social anxiety and used to be "riled up by social injustices and was a bit of an sjw" reminds me rather of an unhealthy So/Sx (with ) than Sx/So; basically, someone whose first instinct is vulnerable and means quite a lot to them. (Sx/So can also be concerned with those issues, but it is not their main concern; and SO is rather a relaxed instinct for Sx/So, whereas for you it seems more neurotic like a first instinct often is.)
Also, 2/3 of your post was about social instinct related things, and how you feel about them or what your experiences have been in that regard.
That's another sign to me you care about SO more.
It is also more common for So/Sx people to be into cultural over political issues. And I get the impression you are rather synflow than contraflow.
And yes, the "rock n roll" thing of Sx/So doesn't seem to apply to you.
So all in all, I find it more likely you are actually So/Sx. I'd agree with your self-typing as lead, though based on that post alone EII-Fi is a possibility.
Have you ever considered that typing before?
P.S: So/Sx people can also get into obsessive or strong infatuations with people from time to time, it is not just SX first people who do.
You are just making wrong assumptions.
If Adam hadn't quoted me, if wouldn't have responded to this thread, because I don't really personally care whether the person is actually Sx/So or not.
I just thought, alright, I'll have a look and try to help.
Anyway, what stacking do you think they are?