I suffer from it, from Si endearment. How do i get over it? Anything that works to put things in perspective?
I suffer from it, from Si endearment. How do i get over it? Anything that works to put things in perspective?
Ask an IEE. First off, what are the circumstances of that endearment?
Hi, basically summed up quickly I've just noticed Si ego (and even Ne ego ) people can be very endearing and their personal acts of doing something for someone can be touching; However when I try to reciprocate I notice that it detracts from my personal motivators and I just don't like to sway because I know in the longer run it'll accumulate and i'll resent detraction such as these. I have no personal interest in such acts and can do without them, hoping this won't sound too harsh.
Can you explain what this means? What's Si endearment? What does it mean to reciprocate? Why does it demotivate you? What are you being swayed from, swayed to, and why don't you like the swaying?
Warm Regards,
Clowns & Entropy
This ain't harsh, it's just you! You and your priorities. Good If you want to avoid this endearment, say that you appreciate something and move on without further chaining yourself to the Si interaction that drains your longterm vision. Reciprocity doesn't have to be a contract. Si will stray either way doing their thing, so does Ne.
I'm wondering about that too, like for me I don't like to spend time with people one-on-one unless I really want to or have to and so often Si is like that; If i spend time one-on-one I consider it quality time and so often is not like that for a lot of people so i feel at a somewhat disadvantage the Si-way ;
Well it's just easy to do something like:
- do something together (spend time together)
- do them a favor by helping them out in something by doing a share of the work
- make them feel at ease even when the situation is awkward
-etc, all of which are Si more or less
Yet. I'd rather maintained the relation but without any of the above. Like, for me these are all too much into 'quality time' and I'd rather put these people under a different, though still friendly, umbrella. Yet Si is also a habit, so a bit difficult to switch gears.
Recommendations?
Well, if you want to just be acquaintances with someone without spending time together, then just do that. If they put pressure on you just give them some signals that you're not really interested, or that you're busy. This does seem more difficult for some people than others. They may still take it as a unfriendly gesture though, there's not a whole lot you can do about that.