I definitely like "protection" though I guess there might be different definitions for that. I agree about help with Se people, as I just get stuck and have no clue how to respond to that.
I like if a guy is there to walk me home if it's late at night, and I like guys who make me feel safe. But though I appreciate it, I don't like it if he rubs it in...I dated an ESTp briefly who would hint for compliments like "you'd probably never walk through this park after dark if I wasn't here." I found that somewhat annoying, even though it was true. I don't like my weaknesses pointed out
Maybe i'm just girly, but I also like to be carried around, whether it's piggy back rides or whatever. Maybe us ENFps are high maintence, lol.
And I like how ESTjs and ISTps both can make you feel protected without calling attention to it. I used to date an ESFp who was very protective (which I liked) but I didn't like that he would scare me about going out at night w/o him, etc. He would actually worry if I went to the store after like 8pm, and that got me to the point where I started going out a lot alone at night, just because.
I think it's more a matter of them respecting you and knowing you can take care of yourself, but they are helping you with something just to be nice.