I don't know if that's enough information to determine her socionics type. However, her Oldham personality style seems rather self-evident:
"Women are angry and hostile, but unable to express these feelings directly. They manipulate others into attacking them and then revel in complaining about how others mistreat them. They are excessively demanding, dependent, and in need of attention and affection. Usually present with marital difficulties, family problems, and sexual dysfunctions.
These women are particularly adept at enraging others (even professionals) and deny their involvement in the process. They are demanding, manipulative, hostile, and passive-aggressive, yet they are submissive, yielding, and over-identify with the traditional feminine role.
Look for a history of early sexualization, sexual abuse, or physical abuse."
http://www.ptypes.com/self-sacrificing.html
Does that describe her by any chance?