Hello again Delta's, time for another intellectual on topic discussion
What has prompted this is I was asked "how do care givers and infantiles initiate relationships?" There is of course no one answer to this and even in trying to answer it there is going to be a distinct difference between Alpha's and Delta's.
So after thinking about it I came up with this fun dichotomy system for inner quadra relationships based on my experiences,
When I refer to development I'm mainly talking the time between initiation and a relationship or some other first milestone (sex maybe), it's deliberately ambiguous to reflect the ambiguous nature of relationships and can also refer speed of finding potential new partners or even the time between meeting someone and being in a position to ask them out.
When I talk about direct and indirect initiation basically I find deltas and alpha's need to establish mutual interest before proceeding and the process of doing this tends to be indirect (this is less noticeable I find for alphas because mutual interest can be established very quickly or very quickly misinterpreted due to their approachable Fe/Si nature).
Also I've found initiation for Delta's and Alpha's relies more on gender roles than romance type.
The concept of initiation can be ambiguous as well, a female aggressor for instance may do all the hard work (body language, presenting opportunities etc.) but expect the male victim to actually take that last step.
Now that I'm out of equations and tables lets focus on deltas. Deltas get the short straw if you're rating the process of starting relationships by it's simplicity, being both "indirectly" initiated and "slowly" developed. It also makes it harder to detail the behavior around it so I'm not even sure if there are any hard and fast rules or correlations for Delta behavior in this area.
To give some perspective and a starting point I'll detail some of my experiences.
I've had 3 serious delta love interests in my life, the 2 high school ones I met through friends, instantly got along with and spent months exchanging emails. The first one asked out by someone else the same day I found out she liked me (haha I was young, the months of emails somehow didn't give it away), the second I was able to initiate by asking her to my ball and after it was painfully obvious how she felt, ask her out properly . (By the way my advise to any shy teenager is a school ball is the best first date you could possibly have...and I'm a delta so I'm insinuating first kiss here ). The third (this one was actually my dual ) I met through her boyfriend, but same deal months of communication excellent friendship, all the same symptoms but a more complicated ending.
Even with my alpha ex I needed to go through the process of meeting her casually, getting to know her, organize some 1 on 1 "friend dates" and then have thing "spontaneously" develop. My gamma victim ex was the one who came onto me but over the course of a whole night and in a pseudo indirect victim way so I wasn't freaked out by it.
So basically I've found with delta's I've needed a grow a one on one friendship and almost have dating as an inevitability before initiating it. I'm assuming now it will no longer be to the same extreme (I've been out of "the game" for awhile) as in the past but that's defiantly my ideal initiation scenario.
So what are some other peoples experiences? How do you like your relationships to start and develop? Is there an easier way to approach a delta ?