A:
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Be direct and honest with me. I don't care for playing games.
- Don't assume my assertive manner is an attack. It simply makes sense to me to be direct.
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When you disagree, tell me. When I'm wrong, tell me. If you have something helpful, tell me.
(clear communication is important to me as my mind has a natural tendency to pop up all sorts of possibilities as to what you mean, what you are referring to, why you are hemming-and-hawing, etc.)
B:
-Don’t clip my wings. I need as much freedom as the situation will allow.
-Lighten up and let’s have more fun together. Say something positive.
- Be patient if I’m not as structured or disciplined as you.
(the middle one fits as well, but not nearly as much as my need for freedom of movement...physical, mental, and emotional...nor as much as my need for clear communication)
C:
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Appreciate [s:2638ebf9f2]all[/s:2638ebf9f2]
the special things I do for you. And give back. Ask me what I would like.
- When you must criticize me, be sensitive. I'm trying to do a good job to please you.
- Don't take advantage of my good will and support. I can burn-out trying to help.
D:
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Value and recognize my contribution, my specialness and gifts.
(and have use for my abilities)
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Let me be me. And, remember, I need meaningful work to feel committed and alive.
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Be patient with my tendency to be "sensitive," and
encourage me to do reality checks.
(I don't see how/why these last two are in the same sentence.)
E:
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Do what you say you’re going to do, and do it right
so I don't have to take it on or pick up
the slack and then get resentful. Also, be more helpful so I don't have to carry so much.
- Appreciate how hard I work and how good a job I do. Sometimes you resist me.
- Pay attention to the details. And be proactive looking to catch the mistakes so I don't have to.
(with an added... but don't expect me to )
F:
-Respect my need for privacy and space. I'm uncomfortable being engulfed with your needs.
-In working with me, have your facts ready and be objective, straight forward and succinct.
-Don't dismiss my analysis or ideas. I try to think things out very carefully.
G:
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Be clear & honest in communicating with me; ambiguity or any withholding drives me crazy.
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Don't take it personally when I play devil's advocate. I am great troubleshooter.
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Be patient and understanding when I [s:2638ebf9f2]over [/s:2638ebf9f2]
react to problems because of my [s:2638ebf9f2]anxiety[/s:2638ebf9f2].
mind popping up too many possibilities for me to sort through on-the-spot
H:
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Be patient with my pace. I work best without constant monitoring and pressure tactics.
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If you must confront or get a commitment from me, an unpressured discussion will get results.
- Be sure you really have my attention if it's important. Remember, I need structure. Gently.
I:
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Notice what I do and achieve. Encourage me. Praise is the gas that makes my motor go.
-Keep up with me.
Don't slow me down or get in the way. I don't like interruptions, being
diverted, or having to carry your load.
(because I divert and interrupt myself enough as is!!)
-And do a good job so it I can be proud of what we accomplish.