One thing that might be worth considering is that if you don't get along well with EIIs because you just don't understand what the other is talking about, that suggests IEI more likely than EIE. EIIs and IEIs are quasi-identicals, and misunderstandings are the major theme there http://www.socionics.com/rel/qid.htm Otherwise yes, you do seem like an IEI type, to me at least. The major world view of IEIs is that reality is continually changing, and circumstances/relationships/things won't stay constant for long...They seem to sense the coming changes long before they happen...So this is a cautious type, hesitant to pin themselves to anything they don't see as 100% solid. That's why they like Se assertiveness from other people, which proves to them that their partner's intentions are firm enough to stand the test of time. You seem to want some certainty from the outside world, which is characteristic of IEI.

IEIs also are very perceptive of the underlying motivations of people, in my experience. They also can judge other's feelings easily. You sound like you have this ability.

Just some thoughts. Take it for what it's worth