No matter how the SLI tries to develop his intuition and capabilities of foresight, he struggles to do so. He sometimes succeeds in understanding the nature of another person only when it is too late. Likewise, the SLI also struggles to understand his own nature, which frequently remains an incomprehensible riddle, despite the fact that the SLI is very often happily occupied by “introspection.”
The SLI frequently evaluates the possibilities of the man through his subjective ethical estimation (“… he is a good person, and is capable of doing a lot.”)
The SLI greatly respects the ability to accurately and concisely describe the characteristics of any person, just as he admires and respects the skill to predict the development of interrelations.
The SLI is likely to be interested in and to respect any science or scientific method that separates the boundaries of human possibilities.
The SLI cares a great deal about the opinions and advice of people who know how to find ways out from very difficult situations. The SLI listens with pleasure to recommendations about how to follow developments in an unforeseen situation or in the case of danger.
We strongly recommend unusual experiences. Sometimes the SLI can seriously discuss a certain unusual thing, which supposedly exists in his home. The SLI can learn the “rules” of defense from “energetic vampires,” and then teach them.
The SLI respects people who have unusual abilities. He tries to develop the same abilities in himself as well.
The SLI pays attention to people who have achieved success and acknowledgement, which inspires deep respect in the SLI. If the SLI’s own activity does not garner proper acknowledgement, he reacts very painfully since he compares his own achievements with the successes of others. The SLI may refer to his own titles and merits.
The SLI needs people who are capable of discovering and estimating his creative abilities and of opening his talents and inspiring him to bring them to fruition.
The SLI has great respect for people who know how to quickly grip the essence of a phenomenon and then share this understanding with others. The SLI does not usually generalize about people in things; he believes that each individual must have a particular approach.
The SLI is sincerely occupied by self-education and self-perfection. He does not like it when others criticize his abilities and possibilities; this causes internal tension in the SLI, since he usually tries to thoroughly develop his talents.
An example of unique successes and achievements is convincing to the SLI only in the way it is presented by his dual the IEE. Only the IEE is able to inspire the SLI, prompting to him with original and tempting ideas, moving towards new, unknown possibilities.
The SLI is always glad for the opportunity to build good relations. The SLI is happy when he is able to show service to his friends, and he readily offers help. The SLI very much likes it when others turn to him for help.
The SLI does not harp on the help he gives others; he simply helps them, without excess words. The SLI believes that the rendering of help and services is the best way for him to make friends.
For example, if the SLI establishes acquaintance with the woman, then after appearing for the first time in her house, he often immediately begins to fix something, and he so is fascinated by this occupation that he may forget about the purpose of his visit.
And here it is possible to trace two directions in the development of the situation: the psychologically-incompatible female partner will consider this position inconvenient and will try to distract the SLI from this work; she will propose that the SLI stop and rest, and she will ask if he wants anything to drink and so forth. This is a serious mistake, since the SLI will see this behavior as too-strong initiative in the development of relations. To the SLI it will seem that things are moving too fast, that the female is too interested that she hurries too much to reduce the psychological distance between them. Then the SLI will quickly feel psychological discomfort, and he will begin to lose interest in the female partner and will try somewhat more quickly to replace situation.
The psychologically-compatible female partner acts completely differently: she only encourages the SLI’s enthusiasm for work and brings everything to it for the repairs that he is making. Moreover it will engage in the work until the SLI himself declares his desire to rest, having first promised that he will finish next time.
Here the situation occurs precisely in the manner that is suitable to the SLI’s dual, the IEE. The time together is spent with real benefit, and furthermore some useful prospects to the future appear; also, relations are developed so that the psychological distance is not decreased. But for the IEE this is very important because this is important for the SLI. The IEE constructs his relations from a distance, because he subconsciously knows that this is a much more suitable way to obtain their partner.
For the SLI it is very problematic for relations to be rigidly defined. Because a strictly-set distance means specific limitations in behavior, the SLI assumes that there is some kind of ethical framework and also some rigid obligations, and where such a framework and obligations are in place, the SLI feels very uncomfortable. He feels deprived of the option for relations to develop naturally in each situation. For example the SLI, disposed to the flexible ethics of the IEE, assumes that when it is said that “we can be good friends,” it is necessary to understand the concealed meaning that “we can be physically and spiritually close.” But when “friendly relations” and the female partner strictly holds the SLI at a certain distance, the SLI feels confused. On the other hand, it is not good to name the state of relations, as the SLI will then start to experience awkwardness and consequently psychological discomfort.
The SLI does not like to speak plainly about intimate feelings. (Therefore the IEE hints about the intimate relations between them.) Internally the SLI is very squeamish and sensitive to any manifestation of triteness.
The SLI does not like to be relations to be clarified outright in words; he does not like clear demarcation of rights and responsibilities in relations. The SLI always tries to wash away the boundaries of limitations, to bring down the distance of relations, to make himself independent from specific obligations. “What obligations? If I am on good terms with someone then for him I would do everything….”
But if the SLI is on bad terms with someone, he leaves the situation with the same ease with which he would leave the room; he simply turns and departs, without saying where he is going and without explaining his reasons. [On itself it can resemble very neskoro, completely unexpectedly and even precisely when it less anything they want to see.] And in this case the SLI may leave others sincerely confused as to why he left, wondering why the SLI doesn’t want to maintain the closeness from before. Others may wonder if they have done something wrong. In truth, the SLI simply needed to rest from the psychological discomfort in order to return to the beloved person with renewed energy. [But that that to the restoration of sincere forces by it was required too much time, its this private affair concerns its only subjective sensations. (although, of course, within the framework of the "restoration of sincere forces", Gaben it can develop relations with several partners simultaneously or alternate to alternate them.)]
As has been noted, the SLI greatly values the harmony of his subjective sensations, as well as his sincere rest; therefore his ethical relations are not always easily added.
The SLI does not usually have problems in definite friendly relations - for his friends the SLI will always be available and the willing to do something. Friendship, as the SLI understands it, is based on relations that are mutual and voluntary.
Relations with children are always very good. SLIs adore their children and grandchildren. SLIs generally find it easy to make contact with children. (SLIs, as a rule, are splendid teachers.)
Problems begin in relations when a feeling of debt introduces itself. The SLI does not like to be obliged to anyone. He will visit relatives only if he wants to meet with them; otherwise contact with them will bring him no pleasure. The SLI tries to avoid relations which are completely based on responsibilities and obligations. The “visits of politeness” to the relatives, where it is necessary for the SLI to listen to reproaches or, worse, detailed reports about poor health, is torturous for the SLI.
The SLI cannot bear moralizations. To the SLI it is simpler “to become good,” when he is already considered good.
The SLI does not make it possible “to punish” him. He answers good only, and then only if he feels, that it is sincerely located to it. The SLI allows no attempts by others to re-educate him; he will immediately move himself away from or ignore anyone who tries to do this.
The SLI is inclined to be sympathetic and generally kind. He does not openly demonstrate his sympathies and hostilities, however. (Though it may be that with his partner he does not hide his wishes.)
The SLI does not emphasize his own virtues, but he likes to feel appreciated; he tries not to associate with ungrateful people. [It loves not about which to request - since and without the request it knows how to attain which to it is necessary.]
With the partner with whom to the SLI is on good terms and with whom he feels pleasant and quiet, the SLI trusts completely and unconditionally, even allowing for some playfulness in his behavior.
With the partner with whom there is not complete mutual understanding, the SLI does not trust and is jealous on the least occasion.
The SLI considers himself too trusting and assumes that he can be easily deceived. Therefore there are few people whom the SLI will allow to get close to him.
Close distance appears from the relations “out of the distance” - on the basis of the very sensitive, flexible and mobile ethics of relations, i.e., precisely such as is characteristic of its dual the IEE. They are added sufficiently difficultly and problematically with the representatives of other psychological types close relations in Gabena.
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oh excellent! Are you going to put all this on the wikisocion (please do!)?
I added it to the Wiki: 
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Originally Posted by Subterranean
whoops I meant "Then as now I remember the smell of [...]" (without the 'it').
