What would make an IEE scary?

[UDP]

"Moody-swingy" unstable people with histrionic tendencies are scary.
Do you get more aggressive and critical with your friends when you're like this?

Hah- in my experiences, yes.
Exactly aggressive and critical, combined. It's like everyone's faults are on display and they are going to be told. It's almost a weird projection of how they don't want their own faults to be the thing on their mind so they defensively focus on everyone elses.

It is not a healthy state to be in; it just creates more pain, especially if other people aren't aware of what is going on. But usually this only happens when very stressed or bothered; when something happened that moved them in such a way that they feel uncomfortable being their normal pleasant selves.

Sometimes it is because they feel they've been too pleasant and/or too repressed, so they have a period of 'letting it all hang out'... but it's not a real solution to anything. The real solution is being more open in the first place.

[jewels]

as for the Fi "shaming" in Marie84's example..I do that...*guilty look*

When a car almost hits me when I cross the street, I react w/ a shameful sort of look (without trying to) -- I think I probably end up looking at the driver like I'm their mom and they're a three year old who just stole a cookie -- I know I'm doing that based on their expression, since a big truck driver suddenly WILL look like a three year old, regretting stealing a cookie.

I feel like it teaches them a lesson to not almost hit people.

I do the same thing when people aren't looking where they're going. A lady walked right into me in the grocery story, and she said "Sorry, (mom) I wasn't looking where I was going." She didn't say the word "mom" but the tone was the same, LOL..

[mikemex]

Well, I'm very relaxed and inexpressive most of the time and a lot of people find that intimidating, specially when I engage in my tendency to see people directly to the eyes. I'm also not very verbal (visual preference?) and tend to get muted when people talks to me, say, to apologize for touching me. I can notice how they expect the worse, like a punch in the face or something. LOL.

[Suz]

Well, I'm very relaxed and inexpressive most of the time and a lot of people find that intimidating, specially when I engage in my tendency to see people directly to the eyes. I'm also not very verbal (visual preference?) and tend to get muted when people talks to me, say, to apologize for touching me. I can notice how they expect the worse, like a punch in the face or something. LOL.

Yeah i've noticed people having that reaction with me too. Makes me feel sad and self-conscious though because I feel bad that people feel intimidated by me since that wasn't my intention.