Yeah, I had another VI thread up here with a female friend, and people guessed LII. Even though that relationship was very positive, I could understand a way in which it functioned as Benefit.
But as I let it sit, it does seem that LII makes the most sense here. So I can work backward from that to try to understand HOW this relationship was Beneficiary.
I suppose it's true that I have often been perplexed that he seems to find me threatening in some way, because that is pretty unusual in my relationships with men. He always seemed to think I had some kind of agenda with him, which was not at all the case. It was very frustrating. I caught up with him a few months ago at dinner, and even after years of going separate ways and being distant platonic friends, I got the impression he suspected me of trying to seduce him, and was putting up his guard against me because of it, and I soooo was not interested in anything more than seeing an old friend. In fact, I found the whole thing very upsetting and uncomfortable. This kind of confusion underlay the relationship always and is part of why I posted this thread.