Most people (assuming they don't live under rocks) have a sense of what's
generally acceptable to say and what isn't, including EXTps. This isn't inherent to
; the basics are more a matter of social conditioning and/or just paying attention.
Beyond that, there are some differences in what
vs.
can find 'offensive'. i.e., I've seen
valuers (especially in β) place a higher primacy on others possessing what they condone as 'good manners', and taking offense when they don't. Whereas most
people are inclined not to castigate people over such things, since they don't judge people in the same way
does—which implicitly relies on exernally-based
rulesets it treats as "objective standards" to gauge a person's conduct.
valuers OTOH are more likely to understand and embrace the idea that a person's observable behaviors, feelings, etc. cannot be evaluated according to some fixed universal standard. That these are wholly subjective matters that can only really be understood and assessed within the unique context of that individual human being.