Recently me and a friend who knows more about socionics than myself - and who first typed me as an ESTJ - typed my father. Heīs a very typical INTP individual. Very down to earth, too much.
There is a problem between us and we havenīt talked for days. I went to surgery without talking to him and came back and weīre still not talking. I wonder whether INTP has something called a heart or is it just a pessimistic and raging center that constantly gets people down.
The problem is I donīt know how to talk to him. Everytime something good happens in my life, he says itīs luck. The best thing he can do is to smile with a loving calm face and tell me 'nice that you were lucky, isnīt it?' like I was a retarded 5-year-old child. For him things can only go right in two situations: 1-when HE does things himself (heīs very confident in himself) or 2-when there is a sudden lightning of what he calls 'luck'. Because I am not him, I fall into the second case whenever I do something good. This irritates me a lot, and we have had plenty of discussions and arguments over the years. I would not like our relationship to be like this until he dies, or I die, because heīs already 63 now. Iīd like to know how can I talk something to him which he does not find amusingly unrealistic or too optimistic. I see the glass half-empty, he fantasizes the glass to be totally empty. So we have a worse than worst relationship, barely talk to each other even when weīre in good terms because whatever I say he just shows contempt for.
I wonder how to make an INTP get my points. I donīt think he is capable because his head is too narrow and pessimistic to the extreme. Iīm already negativist but heīs double that.