I haven't seen this one actually played out in real-life, but i have thoughts on it.
Leading
versus Vulnerable
: The ESTj wants the INFp to be more active, get more work done, and will criticise the INFp unless it's doing something useful.
Leading
versus Vulnerable
: The INFp is confident in putting off things until it's the right time, which upsets the ESTj who feels that now is the only time. INFp also seems eclectic and just plain weird to the ESTj, because of it's well-developed different beliefs and willingness to be what ESTj's consider laziness.
Role
versus Creative
: ESTj's are able to do actions now, and criticise the INFp who worries about what it is able to do now.
Role
versus Creative
: INFp wants a more emotionally drenched atmosphere and gets annoyed at the ESTj's dry attempt to create it. ESTj is annoyed by the INFp's tendency to focus on the Atmosphere rather the work that needs to be done, or the information that needs to be transmitted.
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