SLIs are only on dating sites if somebody is making them go there.
My SLI-Te father was married to my SEE-Fi mother for over twenty years before they got divorced. My dad was immediately wanting to get on dating sites. He can't stand to be alone (he needs a huge amount of alone time, but to still feel like in the end he's not alone) and I think he was a lot more comfortable on there than actually trying to approach random women or go to bars. Then again, he is good with computers and even for an SLI he's absurdly introverted and shy. He's a 5w6 as well. Before you say he must be some N type, he is an extremely physical person. He can't stand a sit down job and he's been a carpenter for 30 some years. He's also very athletic in general.
Anyway. He was excited by the prospect but had no idea how to approach any one and couldn't think of a single thing to put on his profile and had like three pictures of himself. Most of the pictures were of him with his dogs and/or outdoors, usually both. His smile tends to look forced, he hates having his picture taken. He prefers to be behind the camera and loves taking pictures, especially of nature and the sky.
I actually wrote most of his profile for him and in fact I'm the one that composed the first message he sent to my now stepmother. My main advice being: Add a smiley face. Bitches love smiley faces. (Boondocks?) I think my stepmom is probably SEI.
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I would also like to know how to find female SLIs on dating websites. Or anywhere.
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Female SLI's are at home with their cats. Sometimes, they go to church. Other times, they go to a market that has clean, wholesome food. Less frequently, they go to nice clothing stores. Possibly by bus, possibly on foot.
Very, very rarely, with a window of about six months or a year, they will go out and volunteer for organizations that allow them to view the public from a safe distance. From this vantage point, they will choose a mate.
This is a very interesting topic. Could you say a few examples to "(...)all the wierd outside appropriations delta NFs try to bring in to revitalize their stagnant culture(...)?"
In socionics, or any other fields. I'm trying to think about examples, but I'm not sure I have the necessary perspective of socionics knowledge.
Do you have examples about the guru/seer and the organization afterwards, and what factors made it more delta? We're probably talking about Christianity here too (I assume?). This is a really exciting topic.
You keep wanting to discuss meaningful things on this forum, which is adorable but something I steer away from.
Speaking in generalities ...
Beta seems to generate some cult leader types, with charisma and original spiritual insight.
Delta is often self-improvement-oriented and looking to build a “better society.”
It’s not about Christianity, although I guess Jesus is a good example of a Beta teacher whose teachings got codified if not into Deltaness, at least into something quite unlike what he meant.
In Buddhism an example in the West is Trungpa Rinpoche, whom I consider Beta, and the “cult lite” group Shambhala that grew out of his teaching. Trungpa was a charismatic, self-destructive alcoholic on a power trip but did an amazing job presenting Buddhism to westerners without diluting it much. Shambhala, however, has long seemed Delta-ish.
As for what makes things Beta vs Delta, in Shambhala the project has always been one where people were out to be special in an aristocratic quadra way. Under Trungpa, they partied like crazy and read poetry deep into the night, and there was a lot of drama, and the power structure was very in your face. After Trungpa, they became very stuffy and seemingly harmonious and the power structure was more buried or unarticulated.
The best description of quadra progression imo is from Dolphin, who used to post here:
http://www.the16types.info/vbulletin...ion-by-dolphin
LSI: “I still can’t figure out Pinterest.”
Me: “It’s just, like, idea boards.”
LSI: “I don’t have ideas.”
I got a feeling, as I was asking the question that it might be too personal, but I was really interested in the topic on a generalized level as well, based mostly on facts, without the personal touches (if this is even possible). I understand what you mean though, and will try to keep it in mind.
This was a super interesting read though, I will definitely look up Trungpa too, and all the shenanigans in the topic. You got me at drama and reading poetry late into the night. Thank you a lot for the answer, I appreciate it.
Hey, this is a late comment, but SLE will travel to see a romantic interest. I think the issue here is he has no knowledge of this person and can’t picture how it might go or feel reasonably sure it would be a good match. You should figure out a way to get them together in person.
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LSI: “I still can’t figure out Pinterest.”
Me: “It’s just, like, idea boards.”
LSI: “I don’t have ideas.”
To all searching:
Why not heavily pursue some of your interests in public and see who you meet? Then again I met my fiance by being on social media a lot. I was just being myself, focusing on my interests and he reached out to me.
It also couldn't hurt going with who you feel naturally attracted to. Don't force yourself but see what connections happen most naturally. Theories and assumptions humans make are often wrong and not as well developed as our instincts when it comes to partnering.
Remember too the sad reality that it is human nature to tend to take our most compatible ones for granted. You might only realize someone was your dual long after the relationship drifts and they move on and you miss them now too much ...
~* astralsilky
Each essence is a separate glass,
Through which Sun of Being’s Light is passed,
Each tinted fragment sparkles with the Sun,
A thousand colors, but the Light is One.
Jami, 15th c. Persian Poet
Post types & fully individuated before 2012 ...
I would expect an SLIs dating profile to be pretty factual and straightforward. I would think they use dating sites more than average if they are serious about finding a partner (e.g. marriage). The folks I type as SLI IRL are just mostly working, into occasional cooking or frisbee or church-going else wild bouts of amorality for the nonreligious. I would expect no quirky sentimental imagination evident in their profiles when it comes to interests. But the really active sports like kayaking or mountain climbing I associate with Betas. The LSIs I've known have also tried racquetball or working out ... Rather less adventurous than beta STs. Other possible hobbies they might list could involve technology or artisan crafts. (They dress with utmost simplicity, which makes the women often appear tomboyish). They might come off as being very happy, quiet, easygoing welladjusted people "just looking for a caring person and good times."
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~* astralsilky
Each essence is a separate glass,
Through which Sun of Being’s Light is passed,
Each tinted fragment sparkles with the Sun,
A thousand colors, but the Light is One.
Jami, 15th c. Persian Poet
Post types & fully individuated before 2012 ...