I'm a bundle of turbulent emotions, personally, so I understand the tantrum state.

But equanimity is a widely desirable trait. Tantruming is not. If over-the-top emotional scenes happen to provoke negative physiological reactions in your partner, you run the risk of corroding the relationship.

There are ways to convey high emotional distress that don't involve losing control of yourself. Have an agreement with him on how to handle upsets. If the agreement is that he doesn't mind withstanding tantrums, you're all good. If not, you can convey the same level of emotional distress differently. He'll still receive your Fi correction. Because of the agreement, he will know that a conflict would have been a tantrum, but because you love him you are handling it in a way he can accept.

Btw, this takes practice.