Quote Originally Posted by divergentwacey View Post
So, you're saying victim romance style is unhealthy, for whom the victim the aggressor or both? Only four romance styles and if the victim one is not then the aggressive one is not either and if both the aggressive style and the victim style are unhealthy then the infantile caregiver styles ARE healthy, or are all four of them unhealthy because on of them is unhealthy, or is one of them unhealthy and the other three are healthy, or maybe three of them are unhealthy and only one of them is healthy, or maybe only one of them is unhealthy and the other three are healthy, or maybe aw fuck it?
You're making me dizzy man I feel infantile-caregiver dynamic is healthier in a way that it's less likely to make you go completely mental. More stable and predictable I guess, with more established rules of the game.
Aggressor - victim dynamic can be highly toxic for both parties, not just for victims.
Not to say other types of relationships can't make you lose it if you're prone to that.