Originally Posted by
Eliza Thomason
Yes, its so true, they mourn. Its also true that those who have had abortions often mourn, particularly much after the fact, particularly when they have their next babies and bring them to term. They hold their babies and they remember their first baby whom they did not hold. They wonder how he or she looked, as their baby grows they wonder how their other baby looked at this age. They do not forget. They can never on earth see this child, like one that would have been placed in a loving family. They remember always their other baby/babies they once carried in their body, bone of their bone, flesh of their flesh.
I know those who mourn. Its a very, very private matter of the heart. Its only two I know, both I was close to, close enough that they choose to share this secret loss with me, for their own different reasons.
One, younger, and this friend has repeated this regret to me somewhat often since she first shared it after her children were born. There was two, with the same father of the two she has. And one miscarriage. So more in heaven than on earth. It surprises me sometimes, because she knows God's forgiveness and mercy, I remind her how scarcely culpable she was in this crisis situation -0 a real crisis wiht no good advice and no one to support her in her need, but she focuses on what she wishes she had done, and on that small, small part of her that knew it was wrong and went ahead anyway. She is going to take part in a Rachel's Vineyard program someday, which brings a lot of healing to woman who want to heal this particular suffering.
The other friend was very old. Close to our family, an old person I was close to and loved much, over much time. Since childhood. She was a Mom to me where my broken Mom was not able to be. I often think that her sympathy and validation towards me from a young age, consistent over time, saved me psychological trouble. She was near death when she surprised me and blurted out her deep dark secret to me, which had plagued her her entire life. I could see it was a great relief for her to share it. And she confirmed what studies with reasonable validity ratings prove: if one has had an abortion, the chances of being taken as an inpatient for mental issues sometime in your life sky rockets. And this had happened to her in her life.
If only hers and others' mourning for their aborted child was not so politically incorrect, she could have sought healing earlier in life. But instead, for most, its a terrible secret they never share.
And fathers mourn, too. Usually, also, much after the fact, often while they are loving their born children, or regretting they have no children to love. And certainly at first, for the mother, there is relief for a big problem so quickly solved. Regret comes later. And it lasts, years.
Yes, so this is a reality, and oh, Planned Parenthood has nothing to offer these woman. It would contradict the prime product of their highly profitable business!