Originally Posted by
unefille
Over time, if I were interested in you, I might grow frustrated with my own 'Fe inertia' around you, and instead, to compensate, lavish the sort of positive Fe output that Fe-leading types are often associated with on people who are close to you, whom I like, but I am not interested in. I will be more able to engage them in conversation, less moody when near them than near you, more flirtatious, even, with witty jabs at them and relatively good-natured joking and lots of enthusiastic conversations, with big, happy facial expressions. At this point, I'm also probably more than a little frustrated at your inertia (clearly there is something I think you should be doing to move us closer which you are not, though heavens, don't ask for a reasonable explanation), and so I'm also punishing you and demonstrating just how vivacious and fun I can be and what you're missing out on. I'm trying to goad you into action. In my experience, LSIs read that correctly (they go 'ah, GAMES! She/he likes me!' -- oh maybe that's just LSIs who spend way too much time around me) and LIIs just get confused or put-off. There might be the danger that you think I like your friends, rather than you, but if you're discerning, you'll notice that those signs of 'affection' toward them usually become amplified in your presence, and if your attention drifts away from me when I'm engaging them, I'll try to somehow gain it back again, either by talking about you, or trying to draw you into the conversation.
Sub-types also count. Fe-subs are more constant, generally, and thus more initiative taking. They'll be more actively in seeking your company/chances to engage you. Ni-subs are more erratic and more actively bent on provoking YOU into action. If and when they finally do act, it will often contain an air of exasperation, with some cruel jabs about you involved. I can't imagine being less defensive, but I am pretty easy to disarm -- just remain unfailing self-assured, always, especially in the face of mockery and aloofness.