Do you consider yourself to be more physically attractive than the average person?

[redbaron]

I think people see themselves as physically attractive relative to an ideal version of themselves they have in their minds; and not so much as relative to other people.

I think this is true. I feel much much better about myself when I'm the best I can be and I know I'm trying than when I let myself go, even though I might not be ugly compared to the rest of the population even when I'm fatter and doing nothing to help my appearance or posture, etc.

One thing: I have a really hard time accepting compliments when I know I'm not the best I can be. About five years ago I weighed almost 20 pounds more than I do now (not sure why really, I think I was unhappy and it was emotional eating). If I had received a compliment back then about anything--hair, clothes, "you look nice", I would have wrote it off in my mind as being untrue or as meaning very little. Now, however, I welcome compliments because I agree with them, relative to my own personal potential.

[Creepy-Diana]

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[calenwen]

Hm, how tall is tall?

I get a lot of compliments on my looks by older people (and by older, I guess I only mean one generation or so and up), and every guy I've ever "liked" has "liked" me back, but I honestly don't consider myself to be above average.

[redbaron]

Hm, how tall is tall?

I get a lot of compliments on my looks by older people (and by older, I guess I only mean one generation or so and up), and every guy I've ever "liked" has "liked" me back, but I honestly don't consider myself to be above average.

Oh I think you are! I remember the pics of you in the other thread

Tall is probably 5'9 and up or something. I'm 5'10" and I consider myself tall but I know it's not THAT tall. I have a female cousin who's 6'2".

[Lotus]

Hm, how tall is tall?

I really, really wish I was taller. I'm only 5'3" or 5'4" (I haven't checked in like a year or so) and I hate it. Taller seems more graceful and attractive to me. Even though I'm short, I always date guys way taller than me. Haha

I get a lot of compliments on my looks by older people (and by older, I guess I only mean one generation or so and up), and every guy I've ever "liked" has "liked" me back, but I honestly don't consider myself to be above average.

Yeah, I find that I get more compliments from people older than me as well, but that may be because everyone always thinks I'm older—despite my height. I'm seventeen but I get treated like I'm in my twenties. Heh. One of my father's coworkers told me, "You've really grown up, but you look older than you should."

Egh. I wish I looked my age.

I consider myself average, maybe a little bit below.

I'm not sure I'm good at objectively judging these things, though. "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder" and "handsome is as handsome does" etc.

I've only seen one picture of you, but I'd definitely say you're above average. Not that that really means everything—complimenting based on the average, that is. I just mean that you are very good-looking, as far as I remember.

[redbaron]

the more compliments from older people thing? I think that's because older people give more compliments. They admire the beauty of youth and are confident enough to hand them out without making themselves feel lesser.

[jessica129]

We need to sticky the picture thread and put everyone's picture on the front page because i really can't remember what most people look like.

[Lotus]

We need to sticky the picture thread and put everyone's picture on the front page because i really can't remember what most people look like.

Yeah, I wish we had something like that. I forget what most people look like.

[macysmama]

Acually, I think most of this forum is above average. It surprised me, to tell you the truth! This is the only forum that I am involved with online, so I had no idea what all of you would end up looking like. Then I started seeing pics of different members and thought "wow, they are all so attractive!" heehee

ENFp as of today...

[Ritella]

I think this is true. I feel much much better about myself when I'm the best I can be and I know I'm trying than when I let myself go, even though I might not be ugly compared to the rest of the population even when I'm fatter and doing nothing to help my appearance or posture, etc.

One thing: I have a really hard time accepting compliments when I know I'm not the best I can be. About five years ago I weighed almost 20 pounds more than I do now (not sure why really, I think I was unhappy and it was emotional eating). If I had received a compliment back then about anything--hair, clothes, "you look nice", I would have wrote it off in my mind as being untrue or as meaning very little. Now, however, I welcome compliments because I agree with them, relative to my own personal potential.

Oh my god. I totally relate to this. My job last year was so stressful. I binged ate my way +20 pounds. I've always been like model skinny so I'm actually still really thin, but to me I look sort of fat and not good. And whenever people say I look good I just get all sad and think they're lying, which makes them think I have an eating disorder or something.I dunno.
Also, the difference between how I look when I'm "okay" vs. "ideal" is probably minimal to an outside observer, but it's huge to me. And it majorly affects my self-confidence, which - in turn- affects my attractiveness. I mean, I could try to fake confidence, when I'm not looking my best, but I find it impossible.

[Jimbean]

Personally, I figured it does not matter. If I achieve my goals and become a powerful and rough, but unattractive young man, women would be all over me anyway

Actually, when I say I am unattractive, this does not mean that I carry myself unattractively, what I mean is I do not fit what people say is attractive, or at least that is what people think of the standards. People around me act as if I am somewhat attractive.

[Lotus]

I do not fit what people say is attractive, or at least that is what people think of the standards.

Not true.

[Jimbean]

I'm physically grotesque b/c of a huge scar on my right eye. I was also born very very ugly. Funny story, I scared the neighbours kids when they were out trick or treating.

Actually, I have always wanted a scar on my face. I think that would fit my personality

[Jimbean]

Not true.

awwww, thanks

[Minde]

I know a guy with a scar on his face. He's cute. A bit scattered, but cute. And nice.

/random input

[Rubicon]

I'm physically grotesque b/c of a huge scar on my right eye. I was also born very very ugly. Funny story, I scared the neighbours kids when they were out trick or treating. My personality isn't much better. I still manage to get chicks by treating them like shit.

Please add this to the official members' pics thread.

Don't worry. Your nose is quite nice.

[Ms. Kensington]

Don't worry. Your nose is quite nice.

aww,

yeah i dunno.. i tend to get obsessed with little things, individual things about someone's appearance. like noses, something will physically upset me or make me feel good or whatever.

this kind of question used to be easier to answer.. if we're talking about a symmetric scale? my face is not symmetric.. i think i can be feminine.. carriage varies on the confidence scale -- i mean i think its harder to look sexy looking for car keys than i dunno.. walking confidently down the street? haha. its hard to not laugh at this. i dunno. Let's say under average or a little above average but thats ok i have a better personality then. I also tend to think with grooming and good eating habits and youth make people look handsome. A lot of people. I would say that average is handsome.

[LlywelynapGruffydd]

I get complimented a lot, like what happened in the other thread. In a vulgar manner, even when I'm just trying to sip Perrier and act classy. But in all honestly, I have a serious inferiority complex and believe myself to be an ugly duckling.

[redbaron]

would say that average is handsome.

I agree with this! And I think sometimes it's just chemistry or something that stands out about someone, even if you can't quite put your finger on it.

[strrrng]

Oh my god. I totally relate to this. My job last year was so stressful. I binged ate my way +20 pounds. I've always been like model skinny so I'm actually still really thin, but to me I look sort of fat and not good. And whenever people say I look good I just get all sad and think they're lying, which makes them think I have an eating disorder or something.I dunno.
Also, the difference between how I look when I'm "okay" vs. "ideal" is probably minimal to an outside observer, but it's huge to me. And it majorly affects my self-confidence, which - in turn- affects my attractiveness. I mean, I could try to fake confidence, when I'm not looking my best, but I find it impossible.

Don't worry, you're a hottie

[Ritella]

thank you