Correct me if I'm wrong here, basically you are naturally inclined to spot, sense when somebody might be offended. Your first response to my PM. In this instance you were basically just being naturally attentive to my emotional state, you sensed my state and wanted to address it. To kind of help me, you were showing good will towards me in that you wanted to discuss the feeling that arose from our interaction, to make amends in a way.
Now in our following interaction you proceeded to gather information about me, draw conclusion about me. From the information presented to you. However this information was scarce and you lacked the prerequisite experience to rightfully make these claims, but like you state, when one does not have the necessary information one must go by what one knows, extrapolate based on current trends, past experiences. This is what you were doing, in an environment scarce of information you were extrapolating things about me. You were adapting to the current situation to the best of your abilities, you were guessing about my actions, emotional states, personality traits and the like. In order to have an idea of me, to have a picture of me, so that you would know how to properly deal with me. Like you said, you want to know because it makes it easier to interact with me.
And you do this because you desire peace and harmony of your environment. You like it when other people are happy and you freely give up your comfort for the sake of securing a nice environment, like you say it's a nice thing to do and it facilitates communication. Basically you are sensitive to the environment around you, a positive emotional atmosphere is essential for your sense of well being and inner peace, like you say, when you give of yourself you feel fuller and more satisfied than before and if you have happiness, why shouldn't you share it. Basically you aim to spread, promote this positive emotional atmosphere by directly influencing it around yourself. You give candy to kids to make them happy and stuff.
And you were acting out of this motivation when you told me not to take my stress out on you. You were trying to maintain a positive environment. Basically you were being preventive, you were preventively "attacking" me for being emotionally hostile to you.
And when you approach me in other ways, you were doing it from this perspective as well, trying to determine the general state of affairs, my disposition towards you, towards things. Like you say, you aim to have me be happy and comfortable. And for you to do this you need to know what I am thinking and feeling.
So you question me on what I am thinking and feeling. You responses have been primarily centered on my states of mind, on my disposition.
But again because there is not much to go on so you get information on my state of mind by extrapolating my current mental state. Or in essence by guessing what it is, as there was not enough information to be conclusive in your estimates. You were basically not really dealing with me at all, but with a model of me you constructed. And based on this model you would determine my current emotional states, and tried to prevent unfavorable ones. And this, like you state, requires constant adaptation to the changing conditions. It also requires you to be up to date, to constantly be inquiring about my state. And this is what you did.