I do get kind of anxious when people have expectations of me. I hate obligations. If I'm going to do something, I want to do it for my own reasons and not because someone else thinks I should or have to.

And true enough, my husband doesn't have a lot of expectations of me. He wants to be fed every day but he has no particular expectations about how that should happen.

I don't think that's *all* the attractiveness or even necessarily most of it, but it is true that I like that. Or at least not being like that that repels me.