I get the impression from descriptions here that ESFp and ESTp are usually very decisive, self-confident and generally classed as Aggressors. It would logically seem to follow that they don't have difficulty initiating relationships. At the very least, I would imagine they'd know what they want and what they don't.
However, my experiences with these types in attraction have generally been fraught with ambivalence. One step forward, two steps back. Held at arm's length, taciturn behaviors, often conflicted. And my favorite: compartmentalization. (She's my girlfriend, you're my emotional confidant).
My question then, what conditions prompt this kind of hesitation? Why can't they just decide?
Do I simply not know the ES_p high sign or secret handshake??
What's a poor INFp to do?