Honestly confused on my type

[Creepy-sarahdxwrappd]

...and I've pretty much given up on finding any insight on this forum as to what it might be. Seems like everyone talks total wish-washy BS on here.

I feel like I'm two types. Maybe most of you are wrong in saying that there is one solid type for everyone...people are changable in my opinion (rarely the case...but still plausible. unsure of my personality or lifestyle is such).

I see mixtures of ESI and IEI within my self and how I live my life.

I've pegged myself both before: however there's an IEI male at work..who irratates me to no end on how oblivious he is to practical things. But I feel like I understand him in a sibling kind of way. And there is an ESI female at work.. who from close interaction I get along great with, and lots of understanding until other people show up in the mix and then she is a total ass-kissing fake bitch...type 2 enneagram (oh my effin god, i hate type 2s...they seem so fake to me). Everyone wants to be her god damn friend, and she PRETENDS that they are and the talks soooo much shit about them to me. It's annoying. I, however, like a select few and am very honest and forward faced when it comes to not liking someone...I don't hide it, if I talk shit about someone...they know it, I've more than likely said it to their face.

I relate very very much to type six enneagram...a little to type four (with about trying on personalities...maybe because i'm so young i do this?? But also I want to be loved and accepted for who I am..and feel very very stubborn of this...if I feel someone doesn't "get" me...I will sabatouge the friendship or relationship I have with that person just to ebb further heartache for me, should they never "get" me. I start fights, and I can be confrontational...especially to the guy I've been seeing, because I can be extremely insecure about particular things (..I hate when guys talk fondly of thier exes...i know..stupid, but I can't help it, I get insanely jealous..or I know I've small tits..and wish they were bigger, lol... or I feel like no one will ever truly understand me enough to love me and never walk away.) it's...human stuff I guess, not sure if any of it is type relatable.

anyways..I guess I want my typing down so much because of the same reasons everyone else does: I'm afraid of...surrounding myself with the wrong people...or ending up with the "wrong" guy..and getting a divorce. honestly. that's the only reason I've been so compelled towards socionics and I know it's a silly fear...that socionics will never be able to clear away...hell even the perfect dual relationship can crumble and it's all been sooooo built up. I'm just afraid. of my future. of never being "happy" or of having a partner who loves me now but down the road will see me as a HUGE burden or something.
anyways. I know it's silly and stupid.
gotta head to work.
later.

-sarah.

[Beautiful sky]

Focus on yourself and never mind about the person at work, who you think is IEI. What if that person is really another type?

Age has a factor in type. Some people develop emotionally and behavioraly much later then others...so with Socionics, you may just be in a limbo state right now and may relate to a lot of descriptions of type.

You should look for and focus on functions you relate to, like and ones you don't like, and can't stand to do yourself.

Don't give or take away value of symbols/functions, as a type, every type has positives and negatives; there is no such thing as good and bad type. And, there is no such thing as smart of dumb type either;

Choose one reference for function descriptions. I find Socioniko to be most accurate.

[Aiss]

Are you sure you aren't Logical? Not trying to suggest a particular type here.

[Beautiful sky]

Are you sure you aren't Logical? Not trying to suggest a particular type here.

Yes she is, she just hasn't come to terms with it.

[thePirate]

Yes she is, she just hasn't come to terms with it.

if you think she is a logical please give the reasons why. I know this type VERY well and have NO problem running what you think is logic into the ground. Once I do, I dont want you to run away like the coward you are, I want you to stand before us all and admit you were wrong.

P.S. :grr:

[Beautiful sky]

First of all,

I want to say I am sorry Sarah for ignoring you. I noticed that you have asked to be typed several times before and the thread escaped my attention. So, you have, now, my very undivided attention. So let us begin, darling.

I don't know much about you except what you wrote and your enneagram type. Let's look at your post of yourself.

"...and I've pretty much given up on finding any insight on this forum as to what it might be. Seems like everyone talks total wish-washy BS on here.

By wanting to "give up", I am getting the sense that you like quick results, correct?

I feel like I'm two types. Maybe most of you are wrong in saying that there is one solid type for everyone...people are changable in my opinion (rarely the case...but still plausible. unsure of my personality or lifestyle is such).

You seem to have a good handle on your internal feelings for things (I would interpret this as Si). You believe in individuality, when you say that "most of you are wrong in saying that there is one solid type for everyone"; that is characteristic ISTp, and many ESTj, think the same way.

I see mixtures of ESI and IEI within my self and how I live my life.

I see the same as well, but I would like to know what about ethical type to you connect with?

I've pegged myself both before: however there's an IEI male at work..who irratates me to no end on how oblivious he is to practical things. But I feel like I understand him in a sibling kind of way.

That doesn't say anything about you or them because no one knows for sure.

And there is an ESI female at work.. who from close interaction I get along great with, and lots of understanding until other people show up in the mix and then she is a total ass-kissing fake bitch...type 2 enneagram (oh my effin god, i hate type 2s...they seem so fake to me). Everyone wants to be her god damn friend, and she PRETENDS that they are and the talks soooo much shit about them to me. It's annoying. I, however, like a select few and am very honest and forward faced when it comes to not liking someone...I don't hide it, if I talk shit about someone...they know it, I've more than likely said it to their face.

Good start here, you are a 6 in the enneagram, which is a loyalist/buddy (that tends to be a very reactive and stable) and 2? which 2 don't you like?

I relate very very much to type six enneagram...a little to type four (with about trying on personalities...maybe because i'm so young i do this??

Age has a factor in how your mind is set on the ideas and views of the world and how you fit into that scheme.

But also I want to be loved and accepted for who I am..and feel very very stubborn of this...if I feel someone doesn't "get" me...I will sabatouge the friendship or relationship I have with that person just to ebb further heartache for me, should they never "get" me. I start fights, and I can be confrontational...especially to the guy I've been seeing, because I can be extremely insecure about particular things (..I hate when guys talk fondly of thier exes...i know..stupid, but I can't help it, I get insanely jealous..or I know I've small tits..and wish they were bigger, lol... or I feel like no one will ever truly understand me enough to love me and never walk away.) it's...human stuff I guess, not sure if any of it is type relatable.

The above portion is Fe polr. so I would type you in ISTp or INTp.

anyways..I guess I want my typing down so much because of the same reasons everyone else does: I'm afraid of...surrounding myself with the wrong people...or ending up with the "wrong" guy..and getting a divorce. honestly. that's the only reason I've been so compelled towards socionics and I know it's a silly fear...that socionics will never be able to clear away...hell even the perfect dual relationship can crumble and it's all been sooooo built up. I'm just afraid. of my future. of never being "happy" or of having a partner who loves me now but down the road will see me as a HUGE burden or something.
anyways. I know it's silly and stupid.
gotta head to work.
later.

Not silly or stupid; having an x-ray vision into the heart and intentions of other individuals is not a bad thing (my morals speaking here).

-sarah."

[thePirate]

First of all,

I want to say I am sorry Sarah for ignoring you. I noticed that you have asked to be typed several times before and the thread escaped my attention. So, you have, now, my very undivided attention. So let us begin, darling.

I don't know much about you except what you wrote and your enneagram type. Let's look at your post of yourself.

"...and I've pretty much given up on finding any insight on this forum as to what it might be. Seems like everyone talks total wish-washy BS on here.

By wanting to "give up", I am getting the sense that you like quick results, correct?

I feel like I'm two types. Maybe most of you are wrong in saying that there is one solid type for everyone...people are changable in my opinion (rarely the case...but still plausible. unsure of my personality or lifestyle is such).

You seem to have a good handle on your internal feelings for things (I would interpret this as Si). You believe in individuality, when you say that "most of you are wrong in saying that there is one solid type for everyone"; that is characteristic ISTp, and many ESTj, think the same way.
I see mixtures of ESI and IEI within my self and how I live my life.

I've pegged myself both before: however there's an IEI male at work..who irratates me to no end on how oblivious he is to practical things. But I feel like I understand him in a sibling kind of way. And there is an ESI female at work.. who from close interaction I get along great with, and lots of understanding until other people show up in the mix and then she is a total ass-kissing fake bitch...type 2 enneagram (oh my effin god, i hate type 2s...they seem so fake to me). Everyone wants to be her god damn friend, and she PRETENDS that they are and the talks soooo much shit about them to me. It's annoying. I, however, like a select few and am very honest and forward faced when it comes to not liking someone...I don't hide it, if I talk shit about someone...they know it, I've more than likely said it to their face.

I relate very very much to type six enneagram...a little to type four (with about trying on personalities...maybe because i'm so young i do this?? But also I want to be loved and accepted for who I am..and feel very very stubborn of this...if I feel someone doesn't "get" me...I will sabatouge the friendship or relationship I have with that person just to ebb further heartache for me, should they never "get" me. I start fights, and I can be confrontational...especially to the guy I've been seeing, because I can be extremely insecure about particular things (..I hate when guys talk fondly of thier exes...i know..stupid, but I can't help it, I get insanely jealous..or I know I've small tits..and wish they were bigger, lol... or I feel like no one will ever truly understand me enough to love me and never walk away.) it's...human stuff I guess, not sure if any of it is type relatable.

anyways..I guess I want my typing down so much because of the same reasons everyone else does: I'm afraid of...surrounding myself with the wrong people...or ending up with the "wrong" guy..and getting a divorce. honestly. that's the only reason I've been so compelled towards socionics and I know it's a silly fear...that socionics will never be able to clear away...hell even the perfect dual relationship can crumble and it's all been sooooo built up. I'm just afraid. of my future. of never being "happy" or of having a partner who loves me now but down the road will see me as a HUGE burden or something.
anyways. I know it's silly and stupid.
gotta head to work.
later.

-sarah."

You base too many typings off erroneous assumptions.

1.Take the first statement, you assume that she likes quick results without knowing how much time she has spend into searching. For all you know, she could have been trying for a couple of years.

2. This is NOT Si. The ISTp type has a good handle on their feelings? Read what Si has to do with, because it is not this. Si has to do with sensing, not feelings.

Also, her statement did NOT indicate that she believes in individuality, whether or not she does is beside the point. She was saying that people were wrong in reference to type being changeable, it wasnt a sentiment in regards to individualism.

3. EVERYONE wants to be loved and accepted for who they are, this does NOT indicate Fe PoLR. You do NOT know what Fe PoLR is. What you do is you look at descriptions and when you see people use the words in the descriptions to describe themselves you assume it correlates with them WITHOUT THINKING about how that word is used in a socionics context. If you did you would know the way you applied it here is UTTERLY WRONG.


Your inadequate grasp of the english language coupled with your misguided assumptions are VERY misleading, maritsa.

[thePirate]

you are such an ESI, its ridiculous

what your talking about is pretty much my impression of ISFjs and why I never want to date one again. you obviously have a focus on Fi, I dont think you really understand what Fe is. Also, the girl at work is more likely ESFj. The criticisms you have thrown at her are pretty typical Fi evaluations of Fe...you have ISFjs same critical nature, judgemental nature.....I dont see Fe ego at all, in fact you show a complete disregard for the Fe atmosphere at the expense of Fi(starting fights etc because you feel paranoid about the relationship) I think this post is actually a pretty decent example of Ni HA too..a general fear about your future, I get a sense of you wanting reassurance, pessimism about future relationships. The pettiness you exhibit in arguements is also an indicator of this.

ISFjs are known to start fights for that type of shit...dichotomy wise you come off as a negativist too...you mention you get irritated at the IEI due to his lack of practicality..this is Te DS..you also talk about being confrontational over what I personally consider to be petty, and INSANE shit..this is typical of the ISFjs. .

I have also gotten annoyed at identicals, but not for that reason. Te is IEI PoLR, its not going to be much of an issue in our lives in general. You obviously come off as an aggressor, you use Se type bluntness in how you talk.

Her attitude is also one of "Im right, you guys/the theory is wrong". This also despite not knowing much theory at all...typical attitude of gamma SF..thinking their right with little information, stubbornness to what I consider logic.

Aiss, ISFjs often come off as logical types having Ti role. She is definitely a feeler.

CRAZED where are you? you see what Im seeing?

Btw, Im aware of how you took this post.
& I dont care for the response, just be grateful someone helped you find your type.

[Jarno]

Seems like everyone talks total wish-washy BS on here.

correct. the only way is to find out yourself. that's how I did it too.

go type people, understand what is relevant and what not. continualy improve yourself with the new insights you get. It's not that hard.

I've never met anyone who has gotten smarter by using this forum. It's a myth that that is possible.