changing roles in relations

[Dioklecian]

Avoiding stenuous work is not in itself an indicator that someone is ISFp. From your description, your mother sounds VERY much like an ISFj (and a rather unhealthy person).

In your conflicts with her, did you feel like she was trying to impose her values on you? Did you feel like you can't do anything right, or that there is no way to make her understand your point of view or feelings?

My mother is VERY LAZY, ISFJs are not lazy. Their values are healthy, my mother wants you to be dependent on her and she will use anything she can to do that.