I imagined “flattery” was an example of positive emotional feedback
I already considered the idea that identifying the vulnerable function would be the easiest way to establish my sociotype, but got wrong.
This is how I relate to Fe
information element: I appreciate those who display emotional warmth and try to make me feel included in a social group, at least as long as they don’t become too nagging. I am not a lover of social groups, and I would rather prefer one-to-one interactions and close psychological distance, although I never look for personal contact; I enjoy jokes and ironic remarks, but when I’m in a bad mood I don’t like having people around and I feel a bit annoyed when someone tries to cheer me up with jokes instead of helping me to analyze the problem from another perspective or offering possible solutions, ideas or other useful information.
The emotional atmosphere around me generally does not affect me unless it is particularly oppressive; it is hard for me to express spontaneously my emotions, especially the positive ones. I’ve been told “Whether I give you a gold ring or a filthy sock, your facial expression always looks the same”, “Why do you always look so disgusted about the entire world? You never smile!” (whereas I am very relaxed) or, quoting an ILE, “Your Fe function doesn’t function at all!”. I can act a bit childish only with people I know very well and for a long time.
I noticed that because of my seeming coldness many people at the beginning assume I hold something against them and consequently behave unfriendly, but in case that I have an emotional outburst, they turn caring and protective about my feelings. Even though the change reassures me, the whole situation usually makes me feel ridiculous.