Is there any?
Is there any?
Ezra. <3
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Depends what do you understand under domination and submission.
I think maybe there is a correlation, but I don't think it's always a matter of Type A is dominant, Type B is submissive. I think gender plays a role too, for example Type A is dominant when male, but submissive when female, perhaps because that is the social convention. Type B is submissive when male, dominant when female, perhaps because it is against social conventions. Obviously, I am speaking in absolutes right now, but it is never so.
IMO, its Aggressors/Victims, how far they go with dominance/submission depends on other factors besides Socionics. When I was married, my ex and I watched the beginning of Fatal Attraction at the Theater. The aggressive love scenes grossed me out. Fortunately, my ex was ESE, Caregiver-type, and he was turned off too, and suggested we leave. I was glad. Only movie we ever walked out of. We went to the movie next store (which is actually another story). Anyway back at work, some of my colleagues at lunch were gushing about the love scenes in this movie. Seriously? That was a puzzle to me. I am sure that normal love for Aggressors/Victims does not go this far! This was the kinky version of that, Aggressor/Victim gone severe, in great drama. I think that perhaps it was aggressor or victim types that did not mind these scenes, like a caregiver/child-like type would..
In case you haven't seen this yet: http://www.the16types.info/vbulletin...otic-Attitudes
It's not even straight sex to begin with, so I take it 'homos' voted positively. Anyway, I'm not sure there is some kind of link between such practices and sociotype.
What is OP asking here anyway? Does OP know what he is talking about?
I'm not really sure about that as well.
EDIT: Hmm, I see Eliza posted the erotic attitudes to support her claim. Time to "blame" Se/Ni for it - fine with me.
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Sexually it depends whether you're into beatings and waking up with a black eye in bed in the morning. Same with urinating and defecating on your partner. Humiliation.
It doesn't necessarily have to end up violently, focusing mostly on bondage and discipline. So I think what is allowed is between participants to agree on, that is, what turns them on.
And this is the reason, I'm having a bit of trouble(?) actually replying in this thread, for I don't know what is OP talking about at all.
Are you into any kind of stuff I wrote about, Taknamay?
I wonder whether you might be a masochist, if yes. All in all, it is not really sex as in straight sex.
FTR Correlation doesn't mean causation.
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Ezra was here?
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You can't wake a person who is pretending to be asleep.
No one would ever refer to my colleagues as clucking hens so you are wrong about that. And if in your eyes not being into violent sex makes one "prudish", then go ahead and call me prudish. I'll take that from you.
Chosen social convention?? I thought we are talking about sex. That's not a social activity for me. I see it as more of a private thing.
Prudes prudes everywhere.
Non-social sex equals no pillow or dirty talk?
Missionary position for purity ya'll YOLO.
Not sure I am following you. "Used Sex"? I am not saying that domination/submission is what aggressor types do. I said it "depends on other factors besides Socionics." It seems to me that Aggressor/Victim types would be less uncomfortable with a drama about Domination/Submission. Just an opinion.
@nigh, I didn't click on the scene when it was posted in the thread so I can't comment on it. I trust my initial reaction to the movie and won't honor it with another viewing. But if the scene posted here was not aggressive, then it must not have been the scene I walked out on, anyway. That one was some early-on scene, notorious for its violence and/or aggression.
@Eliza Thomason, you make a point about your reaction to a particular scene and its connection to erotic attitudes and you can't quickly click and look at the first two seconds to confirm that this is the scene you are talking about? If you want to talk about your perception of aggressor sexual behavior, it would really help to know what you label aggressive.
And this is what you said earlier in the thread:
If we are talking about the same scene, we could have a poll about how forum members react to it based on type. Yay polls!This was the kinky version of that, Aggressor/Victim gone severe, in great drama. I think that perhaps it was aggressor or victim types that did not mind these scenes, like a caregiver/child-like type would..
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I feel BDSM and the community is very Delta oriented from the people I've known in that community.
One thing is that Delta does not experience the same as Alpha's. isn't just comfort but resilience and toughness, and one way Delta can deal with is testing their resilience and toughness or building it up. BDSM fulfills some of these sensory desires while at the same time providing a channel for ID experiences of Delta ST's(they have in the ID) and Super-Ego experiences of Delta NF's without the consequences of social criticism.
BDSM is a way to experience many power dynamics from the safety of one's bedroom without every having to deal with social mores or input. Also the practices and methodology of the BDSM fetishize the equipment, the tools and technology of the experience so to speak. It is a very practical fetish.
There is also the establishment of safety techniques such as "safe" words and various methods which keep the experience voluntary and in a way ethical and moral.
Now this is not to say other individual don't engage in behavior that is rough and can appear like BDSM, but imo it's not the same as the community. David Carradine dying hung in a closet in sexual asphyxiation situation is BDSM-like but imo doesn't fall under what people know today as the BDSM community.
The key to BDSM is that it's fetishistic and a fixation. Fixations are formed from repression not expression and formed often from super-ego repression.
Power dynamics within aggressor/victim sexual behavior isn't repressed, it is in a way normal, there is no need to ritualized it or make it "safe". Also often within BDSM, the Dom is the pleasure giver while the Sub is the pleasure recipient. Whatever pain is felt is simply spice for the experience. This is more a giver/recipient experience than aggressor/victim.
Also why did I focus on Delta and not Alpha, Alpha Si is pretty averse to pain or even the implication of pain. Alphas may fixate on power dynamics in a different way however as these are repressed traits for them as well.
That scene just looks like normal sex when you're a bit horny :S
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Aren't Deltas legendary in BDSM circles with their 'the lifestyle' shenanigans?
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hkkr that all sounds very intelligent and I couldn't say if there is anything to it. Personally I have a very low pain tolerance. It just sounds messed up to me and any type can be messed up. Even great actors like Carradine. How horrifyingly pitiful that was. Nothing like having your death be an education in freakishness for millions, and your life be remembered for that.
Well David Carradine's behavior isn't BDSM, but simply bondage, the S/M power dynamics are not relevant to his private self-bondage death.
In the BDSM dynamic, a individual does not need to enjoy pain to participate. It only requires one partner to enjoy that form of arousal.
Also imo, Fatal Attraction is not BDSM either.
IMO, BDSM is about repressed expression of normal power structures that exist in day to day life, such as boss to secretary(there is actually a movie about this starring Maggie Gyllenhaal called secretary). The relationship portrayed is loving supposedly natural and fulfilling.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Secretary_(film)
This is a more representative film imo of what the BDSM community is attempting to achieve. The movie basically sanitizes a BDSM relationship and there is no resistance.
In aggressor victim relationships, there is a implicit resistance on the part of a victim, and that resistance is overpowered by the aggressor, in this way both achieve what they desire. In caregiver/infantile relations it's more about giving each other what each other desires even if it's pain or dominance.
There is also the fetishistic aspect of bondage which is tools oriented and equipment oriented. Also procedural rituals and scripts are crafted to expressed otherwise repressed emotions and create a power hierarchy. However often in these relations the power dynamic is reversed because the person receiving pain and submitting is the one receiving pleasure while the individual who is in the dominant position is simply working really hard at it.
I wouldn't confuse true psychopathic behavior with BDSM either, as these are worlds apart. BDSM is ultimately voluntary.
There are certain more psychopathic sadists out there but as a whole they would not fit in in society, their behavior don't fall under BDSM.
For example someone like the BTK killer, who I type LSI
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dennis_Rader
IME...
generally dominant (e.g. "do things i tell you to do/here, do this, this is good")
LSE, SLE, ESE, SLI, SEI
generally submissive (i.e. "tell me things i can do to please you/i have no idea what i'm doing"):
EII, [IEI], IEE
kind of dominant but not really (i.e. "you do all the work, i'll just sit here and groan at the right moments"):
ILI, LII, LSI, [ILE], LIE, [IEI]
kind of submissive but not really (i.e. "mmm yeah you like that? you like that don't you? how about this? how about now? what about this?")
EIE, SEE, [ILE]
haven't had much sexual experience with ESIs to know for sure.
my esi ex was very dominant but in spite of the running joke(?) among some here that i'm a dominatrix i'm more on the submissive side. maybe gender roles, maybe personal idiosyncrasies.
that last category ("kind of submissive but not really") is annoying as FUCK but the guy i was with who was like that i type lse actually. idk i could see it as a caregiver thing too if you wanna do labels.
My ILI ex had absolutely no sex drive. Type-related? Probably sure.
Gender roles definitely play hugely. And LSEs may be dominant but not in the traditionally dominant way... IME they really are caregivers after all.