I am still (STILL!) having a hard time telling apart SEI from SLI.
I met someone the other day and I though he was SEI but then sometimes when you first meet people they're a lot more emotional. Excited to meet you or something. And then I started thinking maybe SLI.
The Si and the Ip temperament seem so obvious. And Fe ought to be obvious too but it's hard to tell what someone's natural state is like. I feel like Fe can be a show at first. How to spot Te>Fe? I mean quickly! How can you spot it quickly?
IEI-Fe 4w3
One is merry and the other serious
One has Te PoLR the other Fe PoLR
They both love family and relationships and have a lot of the same activities in common
One can do a ton of excitement and fun, the other does a lot of hobby related stuff like sports and cars.
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Dual type(as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
If one thinks of the consecutive nature of Si in its relations, it is easier to see the difference in ISTp and ISFp. ISFp tend to revel in what feels good from instance to instance -- it is like hedonism in tiny, tiny fractions between then and now. ISFp's tend to take note of these patterns elsewhere and try to recreate it in the near future via the choices they make now. ISTp's on the other hand, are more likely to recount the truths between instance to instance after thinking about it after some time.
This is what I have noted when they are in a relaxed mode -- in other words, this is what they prefer they wish they were doing if they were not going full force at, for example, work.
SEI's will have more trouble figuring out how to open a door.
...In all seriousness, when I run into super stoic ILI-seeming IEI's, one of the ways I tell their type is that they're just as baffled about Te things as I am, despite seeming very smart and together. It's like the crack in the facade lol. Try to do anything with them and it comes out quickly. The same thing probably holds for SEI/SLI.
Also, eventually if you banter with them the "real" Fe will come out--not so much a display of emotion/excitement as much as a very particular type of curved nuance in the ways that things are stated, usually accompanied by a shift in tone/pitch of voice. Which isn't quantifiable but vastly changes the content of communication. There's something a little flirtatious about Fe imo--it's like testing a certain thing you subtly offer the other person and seeing if the person will "hold" that thing or if you have to "drop" it, if that makes any sense. And you do that over and over at intervals, in different ways. Both Fe-creatives are playful in a way, and, like Octo said, will be able to meet you on this front. SLI's, although capable of being very outwardly emotional, will probably ultimately respond to too much Fe with either a very factually straight-forward response or hesitation.
And they're much less fluid with emotion--their expressions are often *too* Fe if they're faking it--there's expression but no nuance or variation. And it tends to be attached to either learned social circumstances and/or consistent expressions of like/dislike. For instance, my SLI cousin and I giggle a lot while watching movies together, but a lot of times something horrible yet funny will suddenly happen on screen, and I'll laugh, and then she'll stare at me and go: "...why are you laughing? stop." even though both of us were laughing a moment ago and I subconsciously thought we were "being jovial."
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SEIs are more exuberant and less personal. SLIs tend to be more factual and prone to exchanging useful information, with little interest for small talk and unproductive group activities.
“Whether we fall by ambition, blood, or lust, like diamonds we are cut with our own dust.”
Originally Posted by Gilly
Which only reminds me of why Betas seem to thrive in crisis and do poorly in complete calm.
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Glad I am not the only one who has noticed this
But, for a certainty, back then,
We loved so many, yet hated so much,
We hurt others and were hurt ourselves...
Yet even then, we ran like the wind,
Whilst our laughter echoed,
Under cerulean skies...
I think on a quadra level, one take that too far. Although Gulenko talked about excluding harmful influences, he also thought SLIs are Vortical/Synergetic, just like IEIs. I've mobilized plenty in emergencies. I don't know what he meant about IEIs mobilizing.. maybe something to do with Fe. That said, I don't get a rush out of crisis, like maybe SLE might say for themselves (and who might even stir that shit up on purpose), but there are enough people to say they were glad I was around when things go bad. Every time I've grumbled about those situations, but it's not that I'm incapable. The fact that I don't like "troubling things" might contribute to me fixing it. Otherwise, I just want to chill.
Yeah, if someone suddenly broke into their house, an ENFj would know how to handle it better than I. They'll start screaming like crazy, scaring the shit out of the intruder, who will inevitably panic and run.
Seriously though, those descriptions are bollocks.
“Whether we fall by ambition, blood, or lust, like diamonds we are cut with our own dust.”
It's probably easier for an SLI to already notice someone creeping at the door before a break in even happens. Then calmly grab a baseball bat, get giddy waiting for them to come in, and then break their knees.
That's exactly what I was thinking. Haha.
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“Whether we fall by ambition, blood, or lust, like diamonds we are cut with our own dust.”
maybe this:
SEI give an impression of 'go with the flow'
SLI is more 'my way or the high way'
Well I'm probably over-thinking it. He looks like an SLI I used to know so that's influencing me a bit. Thank you for all of your responses!
IEI-Fe 4w3
Way to take the whole ball out of context and run with it, lol -- I meant as a society.
Shoot an apple off their head by surprise and watch their reactions.
well, a more realistic test is watch them in situations of pressure, noise or danger. They are in a way reacting in opposite manners. Bartender in a busy club would definitely be a good job (though perhaps not that rewarding) for a SLI, but not for a SEI. Both IMO tend to have a good kinetic memory - ability to reproduce something they have previously performed - however SEIs are sensitive to the emotional context: for example the prospect of performing an operation of irreversible results (risky, requiring precision) will unbalance the SEI, though such subjective augmentations of the state of things will generally not affect a SLI.
You may also ask them about their impressions, their feelings about random things. SLIs IME don't answer such requests, while SEIs find them natural, the can easily come up with and develop something pretty rich.
This is just what comes to my mind, there surely are many other methods to differentiate these two types (I haven't read the thread).
That is wrong, unless you mean that they are hard to get mobilized and to take notice of what others recognize as "emergencies".
Then perhaps you could give an example, and explain what you meant.
I like this, actually. There are times when others think it's emergent to do something, and I don't think I should move a finger. It can be the other way around sometimes, but the former is more usual.
“Whether we fall by ambition, blood, or lust, like diamonds we are cut with our own dust.”
“Whether we fall by ambition, blood, or lust, like diamonds we are cut with our own dust.”
Park, that was AWESOME; a picture is worth a million words, but a comparison of emotional/physical between two is priceless.
Dual type
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
“Whether we fall by ambition, blood, or lust, like diamonds we are cut with our own dust.”
Good point!
I don't get this one. Please explain
Dual type
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
I don't get it either.
IEI-Fe 4w3
I think a lot of times, the issue isn't so much "how do you tell this type from that type" or "what is this type like as opposed to that type." The issue is why the individual gives off vibes related to other types (if indeed the person is doing that). I don't think it's that uncommon for Ip types to act Te in certain situations and Fe in others (in response to certain situations or from being around certain people). One could look at the behaviors that suggest both types and then try to determine which ones are a clearer indication of the person's "main" personality.
Me neither.I don't get it either.
“Whether we fall by ambition, blood, or lust, like diamonds we are cut with our own dust.”
I'm no Grizzly Adams bearded SLI. Get that hootenanny shit outta here.
Same goes for Chino XL. Although for different reasons.
I wasn't alone in thinking he looks like an abominable snowman after all.
I can't seem to find SEI's for whatever reasons, I've met emotional SLI's(esp girls) who try to beish but they fail at it and seem really annoying and awkward. I have a couple of SLI friends who are girls who are like this, they try to be girly, but in the end to me they just seen awkward and annoying. They lack the charm and natural grace I find in
I think people need to think of SXI as
It must be dual-blindness. I have the same thing with SLIs, although recently I've been having some breakthroughs (after over 6 years of being involved in socionics). As to SEIs, there are plenty of them. I always recognize them, and for some reason, they always seem to single me out from the crowd as well.
“I have never tried that before, so I think I should definitely be able to do that.” --- Pippi Longstocking
Values are contagious, yeah. Think of what phrases like this mean: "<Type> is the <Role> of the Socion; he imbues people around with <View>". I mean, such statements occur often in the descriptions of types, and there is no reason to believe that they refer only to the Dual or the Quadra of the said type. Also we can find in history currents that affect a large majority of the population which can easily be associated with certain values of the Socion: trends, schemes, national/group identities, religion, mass delusions, whatever.
They lack the charm and natural grace I find in
He told me touchy things regarding, you know, relationships & stuff - generally after a beer or two in the beginning - that I couldn't imagine a SLI could tell. Though it is true that I am myself talking much touchy (but honest) shit lately, I don't think he would tell those things to anyone. It is a special context, we both broke-up relatively recently, had fresh memories of emotional anguish, and so on, things will definitely change in a year or so, IMO.
Cheap as in frugal and not generous, and overly concerned about money while pretending it doesn't "matter".
Oh, I understand. Though, they *always* pay their debts (in a more extreme way than the other Ip's), they don't pretend it didn't happen like some others.
There is something I perceive and an injustice that I use to make because of my indifference, which is pretty disturbing. You know, there are these people who easily accept favors - even money - who are not that eager to give them back. Being a generous, or simply a "whatever" person, you just let it go like that. But there are these people who insist in giving you back yours - in my experience Delta Irrationals excelling at this - and because of the same mildness, you accept their compensation pretty easily. This is actually hard to think about because we try to avoid remorses, what it means when the former kind accepts (sometimes encourage) generosity even when they have more, while the latter refuse it even when they go through hardship. This is sad, because when you are involved and draw the bottom line, you realize that you are pasively involved in a loathsome act of injustice...
Maybe I am in a Delta mood nowdays (so don't take this as my persistent mindset), but I have recent concrete cases. One example: I lent money to my parents. It is hard to make my mother (ESE) give them back. If she has, she spends. She often suggests me to make generous acts towards her "just because", thing which I often agree with. :| On the other hand, my father (IEE) is struggling more because of several circumstances, and I asked him to keep the sum he needed because I have given the same amount to my mother - in fact along the time I have given much more to her, I think. But he refused, he said he isn't concerned about my business with her, he will have to pay me back. *I accepted*, it was "his wish", but only after I did that, I realized what my position is: while I understand the motives of both, objectively I am serenlely taking from the principled and I am giving to the self-induglent - yes, generosity, friendship or familial relationships are objective justifications for ownership. I feel like I'm making part of some Fe-flavored grotesque grinning clique.There is no room for interpretation, it is fucking clear as daylight that I've been a hypocrite, period.
Don't get me wrong, I am selfish, I'm thinking only about my happiness, this is why I am not going to let my conscience torment me!
I don't think I have ever acted outside the box of what you're describing. My ESE mom's attitude towards these things has always been pretty disappointing and bothersome. I've been trying to accept this kind of things as just a part of people's individuality, but there are certain things I'll never approve of in principle.
“Whether we fall by ambition, blood, or lust, like diamonds we are cut with our own dust.”
Well, I can only speak for myself but I get extremely irritated in situations of pressure, noise and danger and in situations where there is a lot going on. It gets to the point where I can't function and basically just have to leave or start snapping and losing my temper. I would probably have an anxiety attack if I were put in a situation to be something like a bartender or whatever. But I think that's probably related to being an E6 so just ignore that...maybe? I dont know. I'm just a little confused when people portray SLI's as basically robots with no feelings of anxiety and no feelings at all...I'm not good at self perception but I never thought I was a cold person. I don't talk about feelings and I'm not overly affectionate but I don't think those that know me would call me cold. Possibly on first impression but I don't know...I feel like I'm a very relatable person. I can relate and be friends with anyone. What does this have to do with anything...I don't know.Shoot an apple off their head by surprise and watch their reactions.
You may also ask them about their impressions, their feelings about random things. SLIs IME don't answer such requests, while SEIs find them natural, the can easily come up with and develop something pretty rich.
Argue with them.
Listen to what comes out.
SLI/ISTp -- Te subtype
What are the differences?
Ugh, explaining that sounds like a lot of work with very little reward. Forget what I said.
SLI/ISTp -- Te subtype
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