Originally Posted by
Microknight
Spot on. My older brother is LSE and this describes our relationship well. I just spent the last 6 months or so living with him and I am not going to do that again. Collaboration between us is often difficult and strained, because the LSE likes to plan things for US to do (when I would prefer to do no planning, to take advantage of a future situation.) . When the date to do something rolls around my brother would get often upset at my frequent absences, and say something like "Where were you? WE planned to do such and such..." And I would reply "No, YOU planned to do such and such, I planned nothing." From my point of view, he was including me in his plans without my consent. I, of course, would have no part in such a plan, as this gives another person undue control over my person. The only person that has control over my person is me.
The humor thing is also true. Nearly 100% of the time I find my brother's jokes (and indeed, most LSEs) to be lacking in cleverness or subtlety. On occasion I will think "That was quick witted, but not clever." This isn't a major sticking point, unlike the difficulty in collaboration, but it is nonetheless an important one, as it contributes to the relationship being boring.
Now if I take my experiences with my brother and apply them to the specific situation of the ILI-LSE relationship (and take this with a grain of salt, as it is completely subjective), I think that for a close relationship, this one is doomed from the start. The differences in energy level are going to leave the LSE frustrated and the ILI aloof. A more distant relationship may be alright, as from afar the LSE admires the ILI and the ILI finds the LSE useful.
I do have experiences with other LSEs, but none of those were close enough for me to make a judgment on the nature of the relationship.
That's it for now.