Hi, I'm very new to Socionics, and I admit it confuses me. I've been into MBTI for awhile now, but it's my understanding I should throw that knowledge out the window when approaching Socionics.... Anyway, I am new, and I'd like to figure out my type...thanks for help in advance.
About me:
-I'm very quiet, and shy at first; I can seem cold and aloof to people, but I feel warm & friendly inside
-I have trouble expressing my feelings....it makes me feel too vulnerable
-I like/need a lot of alone time, and tend to isolate myself
-I actually feel loneliest in a crowded room with people, and strangers intimidate me
-I prefer one-on-one interaction, and can get quite animated with people I am comfortable with
-I have a very small circle of friends I adore, but find it difficult to click with most people; I take a looong time to warm up, but once I do, I am very loyal and caring
- I've never had a longterm romantic relationship, but I have dated a lot. I don't click with people either because I am so shy and/or they don't meet my ideals
-I'm somewhat artistic and creative; I'm a graphic designer, I draw, and I write poetry
-My main interests are: music, art, fashion, literature, cooking, psychology, and religion
- I'm a conceptual designer. I get bored when it gets to the details, but I can get obsessed with them also and lose my focus.
-I'm religious and spiritual and do a lot of volunteer work w/my religion
-I always did really well in school, and tend to be book smart, but not street smart, and am kind of socially stupid
-Math & science were a breeze in school, but I preferred literature & French, which were more challenging for my mind
- I like to read classic literature, books on psychology, theology, and art/design.
-I have a lot of trouble making small talk, but I can discuss complex & very personal issues with ease; it doesn't make me bored or uncomfortable
-I'm very daydreamy and imaginative; I have trouble being in the present
-I am totally obvious to my surroundings much of the time, yet aesthetics are important to me. I have a very good sense of color and space.
-I have near constant internal conflict...heart vs head.
-I have a strong sense of understanding and empathy, but am sometimes accused of being too hard on people & overly critical, because I have very high standards and strict morals.
-I can be assertive if necessary; I won't let people walk over me, and I am not afraid to speak my mind. I am otherwise mostly reserved & passive.
-I'm good at putting myself in other people's shoes & seeing from different perspectives
-I'm good at listening to people vent and offering advice and encouragement. People often find themselvs confiding in me and I'm the shoulder to cry on for my friends.
-I'm good at playing devil's advocate and arguing an issue, although I avoid conflict. I did very well in debate in school. I have to be detached to do this. If it is personal, I get too emotional.
-I consider myself both logical and emotional. My family says I am "too logical" at times and not caring enough, but they also say I am temperamental and moody
-I'm late everywhere I go, and I love to do things spontaneously on a whim
-I'm pretty go-with-the-flow, but under the right circumstances I will take the lead and enjoy directing people, usually so I can fulfill my own vision with less compromise. I avoid responsibility for tasks though.
-I highly value my independence and individuality
-I tend to like things which are a bit offbeat, dark, whimsical, and slightly irreverent
-I've always felt alienated and like an outcast in life
-I'd call myself a romanticist and an idealist, and a bit naive at times
-I've been accused of being a know-it-all & too defensive
-I'm extremely sensitive to criticism and will perceive it where there is none