Originally Posted by
liveandletlive
So question #1- where can we find us some ILIs?
I know one ESFp who I met through a dating website, and know/have known 6 ESFps through my workplace. To be honest, I don't think there's any sure-fire place where you're going to find a certain type, because whether due to interests or for other reasons, you can potentially find any type in any place. You probably wouldn't expect to find INTps in retail for example (IMO a very heavily Fe job sector), yet I spent 2½ years working there purely because I couldn't get a job in any other kind of sector whilst I was at college. As a close ESFp friend of mine has said to me before, you can't force love to happen. It happens when it's due to happen and you can't alter it. Perhaps this is true, perhaps it isn't (certainly was in my case, but others may disagree).
Originally Posted by
liveandletlive
Question#2- do you think we could work together as duals realistically IRL? Yes, we're duals and theoretically we can and should be able to work, but I feel as if out of all the duals, we have the most difficulties in making it work IRL because of our different interests and the nature of our types.
Yes I definitely think it would work. Remember that all duals are opposite-natured to eachother - it's what makes them duals. Think Yin and Yang - two opposite yet codependent entities. And not all interests are necessarily type-related - I actually have some common interests with an ESFj I work with. Granted, they are relatively superficial interests, but a person's type will never limit their interests. By the same token, two people of the same type can be very different people beneath the surface. Or on the surface. Or mid-way between the shallow and deep aspects of the personality ocean. But my point is, just because you might have trouble making it work with one INTp, it doesn't mean you'll never make it work with any INTp, it just means you haven't found the right one yet.
Originally Posted by
liveandletlive
Question #3- do you know of any SEE-ILI couples IRL, how do they make it work if at all? I needs to find me a good ILI man
Unfortunately that one I can't answer. Well, my current girlfriend (if that IS the case) is an ESFp, but there's 160 miles and business of life between us, so this one's a terrible example there. I'm not even sure if she even considers there to be a relationship still; I'll have to ask her about that at some point. If I can ever summon up the courage to do so.
Anyway's m'dear, my final words on this matter: Don't overstretch yourself in search of the perfect partner. Quite often people will have several failed relationships before they do meet the right one, but it's from those failed relationships that people learn and grow within themselves. And it's quite likely that your perfect partner will go through quite the same experience before meeting you. Rather than looking straight away for "the one", just lay back more and take up what opportunities come along. I don't mean that in the sense of just go with whatever you can get - still keep your standards and all that, perhaps with Socionics you can help to avoid relationships that would actually be harmful, but just have fun with relationships - you never know, you might bump into Mr Right when you least expect it. And that's another reason not to look too hard - because if you do, you might end up missing opportunities.
Hope this helps.