Originally Posted by
discojoe
If this is too personal I can take it down, but I don't think anyone is going to care.
Ugh. I see very little Se in Kelly, but plenty of Se-valuing. The only way I can see ESFp is if she is some super ethical subtype. She always says she is really outgoing, but I see her as being outgoing for an introvert. ESFps I've known have always had this really kinetic energy that Kelly doesn't have.
Also, Kelly always seems to get pretty riled up by me because of my sometimes comical disregard for Fe, and this inevitably leads to Fe criticism (and it's the only kind of criticism I ever get from her):
"Wow, you were really rude." (in response to my lack of cordiality to someone I didn't know asking me stupid questions at the place I used to work)
"Why are you so grumpy?"
"No, that's mean."
"You don't even know me anymore; we hardly ever talk." - Using the state of our friendship as a malleable tool to win an argument, something I don't believe an ESFp would typically do. I consider all my relationships static; no matter how long it's been since I've seen or spoken with someone, the relationship is still the same in my eyes. Kelly obviously has a different value set in this regard.
My response to this kind of critique is irritation, and which leads to frustration on her part, because I am not "hearing" what she is saying. I just don't give a fuck about Fe (only very superficially, or as a means to get what I want if there is no other way).
There's more, but I don't feel like writing anymore. Maybe I'll continue later.