I met an INTJ last year in school. I myself am an ESFJ. He was very cold to me at first, but eventually, I got him talking. We had a love/hate relationship, because we were continually "arguing" though in a very friendly manner. Most people at the end of last year asked us if we had feelings for each other. We both denied it, but I realized that I did have feelings for him. He had feelings for me earlier in the year, but in his exact words... " the severity of it had worn off and now it has passed into the friendship stage.." he didn't want to start a relationship because he didn't want to ruin our friendship. However, this year, he is still meaner to me than to anyone else, (which everyone says is his way of flirting with me, though I don't see it, because he said we were only friends.) I finally wrote him a letter, telling him that I did have feelings for him, and it was ok if he didn't feel the same way, as long as we could be friends and he wouldn't be so mean to me. I thought he would completely ignore me, but he surprised me and approached me about it. He found my note interesting, and said not to take it personal, but that he was not good with relationships. Then he did something completely uncharacteristic and put his arm around my shoulders, and said "we are friends...and I will make an effort to be nicer to you." He has done so. It's just... I still have strong feelings for him, and I don't know if that was a complete " I don't like you" or if it was more an " I'm really not good with relationships." but he still has feelings for me... If any INTJ or anybody else like to comment or give me advice it would be much appreciated!!! I need to know what to do next.