Projection is ordinary. Person A projects at person B, hoping tovalidate something about person A by the response of person B. However, person B, not wanting to be an obejct of someone elses ego and guarding against existential terror constructs a personality which protects his ego and maintain a certain sense of a robust and real self that is different and separate from person A. Sadly, this robust and real self, cut off by defenses of character from the rest of the world, is quite vulnerable and fragile given that it is imaginary and propped up through external feed back. Person B is dimly aware of this and defends against it all the more, even desperately projecting his anxieties back onto person A, with the hope of shoring up his ego with salubrious validation. All of this happens without A or B acknowledging it, of course. Because to face up to it consciously is shocking, in that this is all anybody is doing or can do and it seems absurd when you realize how pathetic it is.
Originally Posted by metaphoriac
Can one try to be more Aristocratic? I'm trying to become Aristocratic. For instance, instead of having the same "I'm trying to convert you without coming right out and saying it until the end" conversation with, for example, 100 door-to-door salespeople, most of which result in the same threats at the end of the conversation, I might as well just skip the conversation and assume the threats. Saves time, same conclusion. Write off the whole group for the purposes of this specific type of conversation. That would be Aristocratic, right? I find it very hard to do this, as a lifelong Democratic person (lol, not a political Democrat though).
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