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Dual type (as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
Friendship is very important to me. I have deep ones and a handfull who will never betray me and I have never betrayed anyone so that isn't going to happen. My personal values are to be a companion to someone so that we are both not alone because people are not meant to be alone and help motivate someone to find or have a purpose to their lives. In my opinion, people grow apart because they allow it.
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Dual type (as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
things not having to do with the social instinct factor into sociability (i.e. introversion). what social lasters have in common is their weak sense for the way that people/events in the environment connect to one another socially, and that's where the social instinct comes in.
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Dual type (as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
Why is it no good though? I rarely talk to people outside my current sphere of mutual influence including some family members. If I am in ongoing communication with someone it is usually serving a purpose for both of us. Sometimes it is emotional and sometimes information or energy exchange. I do not want to feel like I have to force myself to communicate when there is no reason to. Sure I will randomly send a friend a message of support if it comes to my attention they are going through something but in general I do not keep up with anyone I am not interested in sharing an experience with right now. People outgrow each other all the time and I don't think anyone should feel bad about being in a different place. I don't want stagnant relationships built on expectations. Not saying you do but some do guilt others for not maintaining long term bonds. Not saying you are. I have said I still feel as much love and caring for most people I was close to in my past but when I try to talk to them now sometimes it just feels awkward or like work because we no longer share personal interests. so then it sort of naturally fades away again.
“My typology is . . . not in any sense to stick labels on people at first sight. It is not a physiognomy and not an anthropological system, but a critical psychology dealing with the organization and delimitation of psychic processes that can be shown to be typical.” —C.G. Jung
Why, well if I have made a great connection with someone I shouldn't just let it fade away as long as it still works for both of us. Nothing I said implied anything about stagnant relations. I'm simply very prone to focus on tasks and goals instead of people so if I did not do this conscious focus on people, I would not at all have a chance to share anything with anyone. I can't expect anyone to always take up the task of contacting me while I'm never doing it myself. I have too many faded away relations from the past already. Btw I'm like you with that I'm still just as interested in them as before even without keeping up the contact regularly enough but I just find that way of living no longer satisfies me.
I do know that from most connections you cannot expect that the connection will stay strong and with you forever, maybe not from any connection whatsoever - that would be sad though and I don't really want that to be true -, what I find satisfying or even exhilarating about this world though is that one can always be on the hunt seeking..
i'm extremely introverted and definitely a loner. in the past, friends i've made are usually due to being thrust into each other's company. some people in this thread mentioned that they don't keep up with friends well, which contributes to being a loner. that applies to me, but i'm not sure it's the main explanation. it takes a lot of "energy" for me to be social, and i get drained easily. really, having to interact with people at work 40 hours a week exhausts me, and i just long to be alone. the only time i seem to really have time for people is for close immediate family and if someone enters my life romantically, i flip entirely, and am able to spend all my time with that person. but i think it's because i merge with them, and somehow this doesn't drain my "energy." so, perhaps i am kind of like the friend you mention, but it's not necessarily because i don't need friends. it's mainly that with work in my life and all of those horrible superficial interactions, i just need so badly to be alone, safe from people "violating" me. i feel hugely violated and exposed (in a misrepresented way) and tortured really at work, and it takes the rest of my time to recover. after a day of work, i just shut myself up in my apartment for safety. sometimes i cry and shake. sometimes i just want to kill myself after a day of work.
oh dear. i hope you're not being serious...
well, some of us are legitimate loners... probably a lot of us. i personally seem to change my stack depending on interpretations (mine) rather frequently.
i'll keep the things in the rest of your quote i particularly relate to--or perhaps, don't relate to, in some cases.
i'm not interested in most people, but when i am interested in someone i go digging until i find their core/soul. i generally see others as individual, independent beings in their own right. i think that it's important to never forget that, because losing sight of it has resulted in some of the most terrible atrocities humans have committed against one another. i've always (as long as i remember) had an awareness of this. oppression of another on the grounds of a supposed "group" they are reduced to has long been something that bothers me, and something i fear. i don't like reducing individuals to characteristics of any "group" because that denies them their humanity. still, i live most of my life with myself and ignore most people, unable to take any interest in them. when i am interested, my interest becomes pretty intense and obsessive. i want to see *everything* inside them.~ acceptance, interested in who others really are [acknowledgement of others]
~ awareness of the other -- compared with sx awareness of the energy between two people, soc brings awareness of the other as themselves, as a person in their own right -- and of how one's self and the other are affecting each other
this oddly seems to contradict the previous thing... but i don't really feel interdependent. in fact, i view being interdependent as something dangerous. i don't really believe anyone will bail me out. i kind of know i'm on my own and that no one will save me, despite my fantasies when i was in my twenties. i think the world is largely cruel. i also resent people who have a sense of interdependence. i see them as threats trying to sap what little strength i have from me. i hate them for wanting to take and for giving nothing. if i could, i would run far away from these sorts of people with their goddamn sense of "community." this isn't to say, i don't have any inclinations towards "community." i'm just rather touchy about this. usually the people that go on and on about "helping each other out" just want others to burn away their light in service. i despise people like that. not only do i see them as weak (both in character and in nature) but i see them as unethical.~ soc brings a certain humility because of the sense of interdependence. less overestimating the relative importance of one individual self
i really like long-term friendships. but i'm not good at maintaining them, even though i remember everyone. if i'm with someone romantically (or otherwise devoted) i never want to end the friendship part of it. even if we stop keeping up, they remain in my mind and i will think of them, as though they are there.~ cited a study in which the biggest factor for longevity was friendship
i'm incredibly interested in other species and finding the "person" inside of an individual i meet of another species. it's the most fascinating sort of "digging" for me. i long to connect with that which is "alien" and so i will search a lot. i'm fascinated by just about every animal i meet. i don't really grow bored of this. i want to read their minds and their hearts (their "souls"). i want to understand. i want to answer questions about what unites and separates "us." it's a deep well with no bottom.~ bonds between species (e.g. humans and pets) are examples of soc instinct
i'm really fond of win-wins and naturally look for that kind of solution. i can compromise rather well, although this is largely because i don't really know what i want most of the time. it's so difficult for me to make a decision sometimes that a compromise actually allows for an actual decision and course of action. so it's actually pretty selfish in a way. but i also know that there are so many ways to solve every problem, and i'm good at thinking of all the ways (which contributes to my difficulty making decisions), and so there are ways to solve a problem that benefit all parties more often than not. and that's rather ideal, and makes everything else easier (the consequences).~ one way of looking at all the major spiritual teachings are as an expansion of the soc instinct; ultimately, including all life within the soc instinct's movement toward win-win
i am fairly adept (i think) at reading people if i actually try to. usually i'm so self-absorbed i don't notice others. but if i pay attention, i'm a good reader. i also do readily adapt my behavior without really trying or thinking about it. (not knowing what i even want makes it fairly easy. however, i also do it when i know that it's not what i want in work situations because i feel i have no power and no choice. and that hurts a lot--having to adapt against my own nature.)SOC areas:
~ reading people and adapting behavior
hmm. i actually don't really want either of these. i *hate* having to adapt my own nature and hurt myself for other's needs. i do it at work because i don't want to fall to living on the streets, which i wouldn't be able to survive. i don't value their needs generally and think most of them are pathetic wasteful self-entitled little shits. being higher up on a hierarchy does not earn my respect. i expect a real leader and think social hierarchies are stupid and often wrong. however, if i actually care about someone, it isn't difficult to sacrifice my small needs. i don't need a lot. i'm not high maintenance.➙ sp wants other stuff to adapt to the self; soc is willing to adapt self in light of others' needs
as an example, suppose you feel the room is too hot and you see a thermostat on the wall. sp just turns down the thermostat, but soc gauges others' temperature - if everyone else in the room is dressed lightly, soc does not turn down the thermostat.
i hate participation and have always been rather contrary. nothing annoys me more than conformity.~ contribution and participation.
➙we're wired to contribute. regardless of stack, self-esteem suffers when we feel we have nothing to contribute or what we contribute isn't wanted or doesn't matter.
➙ valuing each others' contributions falls in the soc area as well.
bah. now i'm back to wanting so last in my stacking.When soc is the blind spot:
~ opportunities to be with others are seen in terms of "what will it cost me". Can be a feeling of not caring, of being excessively selfish.
~ talking to self, may be really talking to self even when ostensibly talking to others, interrupting
~ always a feeling of not having made one's contribution even when one actually is contributing[/I]
eta: wow, this is all quite hateful and ugly.
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Like which sort of interpretations are so different ?
To me each of the instincts is a certain attitude and awareness, being rather clearly different from each other.
This is all internal so I do find it hard to type other people's stackings unless I do have a *lot* of experience about them that I can go by. Or deep interview, that - *if* it can be actually established, which is where the caveat is as well - always works
"Sp/Sx - Likely to neglect their desire to seek intense connections and experiences for the sake of their primary concern of maintaining physical saftey, comfort, and an orderly lifestyle, in average-healthy levels. May not have an awareness of the need to connect in a broader sense with the world, of a sense of security or in groups or of the need to seek it, or even of the need to foster approval, support, and understanding of themselves within groups they are connected with, often causing misunderstandings with allies, supporters, friends, and family members."
"Sx/Sp - Likely to neglect their desire to maintain physical saftey, comfort, and an orderly lifestyle for the sake of their primary concern of seeking intense connections and experiences, in average-healthy levels. May not have an awareness of the need to connect in a broader sense with the world, of a sense of security or in groups or of the need to seek it, or even of the need to foster approval, support, and understanding of themselves within groups they are connected with, often causing misunderstandings with allies, supporters, friends, and family members."
"So/Sp - Likely to neglect their desire to maintain physical saftey, comfort, and an orderly lifestyle for the sake of their primary concern of building their sense of personal value, accomplishment, and security of place with others, in average-healthy levels. May not have an awareness of the need to stimulate the mind or emotions, of a sense of deep excitement or enthusiasm, of a need for intimate experiences, of the need for the unfamiliar. May fall into routines and, despite social connection, may feel a strange disconnection even from spouses, friends, and family."
"Sp/So - Likely to neglect their desire to build their sense of personal value, accomplishment, and security of place with others for the sake of their primary concern of maintaining physical saftey, comfort, and an orderly lifestyle, in average-healthy levels. May not have an awareness of the need to stimulate the mind or emotions, of a sense of deep excitement or enthusiasm, of a need for intimate experiences, of the need for the unfamiliar. May fall into routines and, despite social connection, may feel a strange disconnection even from spouses, friends, and family."
http://theenneagram.blogspot.com/200...-variants.html
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“My typology is . . . not in any sense to stick labels on people at first sight. It is not a physiognomy and not an anthropological system, but a critical psychology dealing with the organization and delimitation of psychic processes that can be shown to be typical.” —C.G. Jung
It is 'used' to alleviate the draw of the primary instinct, ime, for example I like listening to neutral newscasts because they draw me out and shift my attention away from being vortexed in constant subjective emotional evaluations, and at least temporarily provide a feeling of being connected with what's happening out there external to my experiences. The even emotional energy of sx-lasts seems attractive and relaxing if only for a short while. Friendship considerations - that would be too subjective, but since the first instinct is used in evaluatory manner, the primary considerations would be something like how consonant you are with their internal emotional landscape to which sx-firsts are very tuned, and so on.
1. I read these and kinda feel bad for the people who are so fixated on the approval/disapproval of others. But then maybe they don't see it as necessarily a bad thing, and it does help them with being social warriors.
2. Some of the So description sounds like the Image types, how to differentiate?
3. One of the issues I have with enneagram type 6 descriptions is when half of it describes an So-6 as opposed to straight 6. Grrr. Any idea why the sites/describers keep doing that?
IEE 649 sx/sp cp
I don't think it is necessarily about "approval" per se (as in "please like what I do/who I am"), but rather an assessment of how and where on fits into a social context because those are constantly changing and shifting. For example, if you do work that is for the benefit of people, it can be difficult to assess its impact without feedback. So the feedback is appreciated because it helps to figure out how you and what you do affect social dynamics, not (only) because it strokes the ego. So firsts structure their lives around being part of a group, so they have to be concerned with how they fit in there.
I feel like so gets an unfortunate reputation of being a slave to social approval. You could flip and say it's sad not to care enough about the social context you yourself affect to give a damn about how people are affected by it (because you don't care about their feedback).
I am speaking in general terms, your post was just a starting point.
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“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage.”
― Anais Nin
I don't feel bad for the social first people except those with social anxiety. They do a lot of things I am grateful for since I do not have to deal with it. Plus everyone has their place in society and without them there would have not been as much social change so quickly. You can tell that many of them thrive when they feel they are a part of something greater than themselves.
I think that is why my mom loved volunteering for her church so much, not to mention the recognition she got for it. She still has me pay her church dues even though she hasn't gone to church in years. I think she likes seeing her name in the newsletter but I have never asked her about it. I know she got upset with me for asking if I should skip it one year. I imagine it can be tricky to fully satisfy the instinct if you have anxiety and that is where it might look like antisocial behavior to others even when it isn't.
I found this article while thinking about your post and also a post in another thread. I guess a lot of stuff out there is kind of personal interpretations from various sites that didn't involve the process of observing, typing and categorizing other real people. I go with what actually feels right to me and some stuff seems so off. Probably 'cause I can't relate to it myself or other people whose instincts I am sure of.
I guess this might answer your question about why some of the general descriptions seem like they were written about a specific variant. I notice people are more inclined to write a description based on their own E type and instincts. I do it and I notice people can react to it if it doesn't align with what they believe. That is why I joke about making disclaimers now. I like to understand why someone sees things in a very different way from me and usually not afraid to ask if I feel they will make an effort to respond to questions.
“My typology is . . . not in any sense to stick labels on people at first sight. It is not a physiognomy and not an anthropological system, but a critical psychology dealing with the organization and delimitation of psychic processes that can be shown to be typical.” —C.G. Jung
That makes sense.
I'm sure So-people feel a similar way to me when I read comments by Sp-lasts about Sp, heh. The thought of...'but that's part of what I LIKE about it!'I feel like so gets an unfortunate reputation of being a slave to social approval. You could flip and say it's sad not to care enough about the social context you yourself affect to give a damn of how people are affected by it (because you don't care about their feedback).
Funnily when Sx lasts comment about Sx I've more of a nod of agreement that yeah, it's a pretty intense stacking which brings a host of problems on its own.
[edited to add: i think approval/disapproval might have been the wrong phrase for me to use in the previous post, I wasn't imagining the seeking of approval. I had actually imagined So it to be more like a sensitivity to when others disapprove, and maybe a sense of self-satisfaction when others happen to voice approval. Like, I just had a conversation with my mom. She mentioned that she stopped reading my facebook newsfeed because some of my posts made her upset. I'm pretty sure those would be the posts in support of same-sex marriage and criticisms of using religion to make it illegal. She's a very religious person, and her religion put in millions of dollars to prevent legalizing same-sex marriage. Anyways, the example is that she'd be sensitive to the criticisms and disapprovals in my posts, even if not directed straight at her, while for me, I was able to shrug off her disapproval of my posts. I didn't intend to hurt her, but I'm not going to alter myself to suit other people's feelings/wants/expectations of me, even from those I love.]
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IEE 649 sx/sp cp
i've went on about myself more. i know that some people reading this will think these responses match so-first and other will think so-last, or even so-second...
@Myst, well, using the social instinct as an example... there are often several things that seem to be involved.
do you have an interest (even a passing one) in certain social issues? if so, social first!
do you have an awareness of certain social issues? if so, social first!
do you not use social networking? if not, social last! (unless of course you are "unhealthy," then social first!)
do you feel put upon by others and find interactions draining in social situations? (if so, social last, unless of course "unhealthy," then social first!)
do you like animals and other lifeforms? if so, social first!
mainly (and i know this is quite simplified and exaggerated), you can in fact find a way to fit anyone into social last or social first, depending on how you decide to juggle the myriad considerations, which is probably more based on your inner sense which may well be drawing off of your own ego and biases. (not you in particular, @Myst)
Agreed. Sometimes I see typings based off of even the slightest hint of an instinct then that must mean that instinct is in higher position. Worse is when there,s so much evidence for the other two, but someone's bias is showing in their typing of someone else.
I guess, for me, I sort of see them as every person deals with these three instincts, some more than others. But if push came to shove and an instinct came into conflict with another one, which onewould take higher priority? Which drive would be stronger?
IEE 649 sx/sp cp
“My typology is . . . not in any sense to stick labels on people at first sight. It is not a physiognomy and not an anthropological system, but a critical psychology dealing with the organization and delimitation of psychic processes that can be shown to be typical.” —C.G. Jung
Seems soc-last alright to me.
sigh. one thing that is true of me is seeking independence from social requirements and expectations to pursue my own agenda. this is usually part of sp/sx. if you fail to gain independence does that make you sp/so? if you are aware of social pressures trying to mold you into something you're not, does that make you sp/so?
No.
1. Not on my own, other people can draw me into it a bit for a short time with their enthusiasm. I still feel a bit removed and essentially an outsider though even then. The enthusiasm I can take on if the person is important to me, as for the belief in the social issue, I can perhaps consider it too, if it makes sense to me, otoh, deep interest in the social issue *on its own* - nope, will not work. Only if it aligns with other things, some of which I've listed here.@Myst, well, using the social instinct as an example... there are often several things that seem to be involved.
do you have an interest (even a passing one) in certain social issues? if so, social first!
do you have an awareness of certain social issues? if so, social first!
do you not use social networking? if not, social last! (unless of course you are "unhealthy," then social first!)
do you feel put upon by others and find interactions draining in social situations? (if so, social last, unless of course "unhealthy," then social first!)
do you like animals and other lifeforms? if so, social first!
2. Not on its own merit. If it affects me that's when I will get aware of something.
3. No I don't.
4. 1) Yes 2) For a short while the process of the interacting is energizing for the sake of the energy exchange itself then it starts to be draining if it goes on while I figure out that I do not find the person interesting enough. If they remain interesting then good
5. Not particularly.
I've always been like this my whole life independently of how healthy I was in periods of my life so I find it's much more sensible to assume soc-last instead of a constantly deeply unhealthy soc-first.
Now, the variations on instinct definitions to me seem fine, not too conflicting, where I find it becomes a problem is when people try to correlate them with subjective vibes. That's where it all goes terribly wrong. This is true of enneatypes and sociotypes and information elements as well. The only time I -still tentatively- consider vibes is when it matches an entire known stacking & enneatype tritype & sociotype, all together. And the vibe I get then can still be conflated with factors that lie outside these theories. (The same issue with VI.)
Nope, if you can actually find a way to do it then you've entered the land of intellectually dishonest non-falsifiable theorizing.mainly (and i know this is quite simplified and exaggerated), you can in fact find a way to fit anyone into social last or social first, depending on how you decide to juggle the myriad considerations, which is probably more based on your inner sense which may well be drawing off of your own ego and biases. (not you in particular, @Myst)
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I like that distinction you made between plain social approval seeking and nuanced assessment of social factors.
I don't see why any instinct needs to get a bad reputation, tho', I agree you could totally flip it, I've been told that so many times, about not caring about the social context, and it was of course given as negative feedback, not positive.
This has all been incredibly, incredibly interesting to read. Yay me for making this thread. I definitely understand so-lasts more now -- I find it absolutely hilarious how someone mentioned not having facebook and not liking animals (more so the idea of pets) as being indicative of so-last. It's so true! I know an sp/sx and an sx/sp and they are both the same in that regard.
I have been wondering if I am not actually so/sx vs sx/so lately. At my healthiest (currently) psychologically, I tend to branch out a LOT into groups, into gaining a position of repute, power, influence, etc. But then again, I am doing this because I am secure sx-wise (deep relationships are much more important to me overall than larger groups)
Sometimes I feel I was more like an sx/so when I was younger but then again I never had a good grasp on social dynamics or how to bring about any kind of social change or awareness. I rebelled against restrictions on my personal freedom more than anything and that was the source of most of my conflicts with authority.
To this day I have very little awareness of politics or even what the current issues are. I know nothing about what is going on with celebrities, or who is getting with who. or who broke up. It is not that I don't like hearing about some of this stuff now and then but I do not seek it out on my own. People with so first or so second are really helpful with this stuff. They can also keep me current on fashion which I do like, especially shoes. Music is something I do keep pretty current with but I love a lot of older stuff like from the 90s.
Even when part of a group I feel like it is "the group" and I am on the periphery of it. I will make a couple good friends but never feel really a part of the group as a whole but I am actually fine with that. I like to see myself as an observer and it gives me a broader perspective. It was in my very early 20s, when I lived in NYC, where I met friends who were very socially aware and cultured. They told me how to make changes in how I spoke and acted around others so I didn't come off as uneducated and trashy. It hurt at the time but I also took it to heart. They knew I was intelligent but said I didn't present myself that way. That really shocked me into paying attention to how I was presenting myself but I have been very self-conscious since then. Always questioning how I am coming off to others.
I often think that anything I post will be misunderstood and I find myself deleting a lot of things. I have been here for awhile now but I still feel like a lot of you are "the group" and I am just some outsider who posts random things that have meaning to me but others think they are irrelevant or innapropriate. I will sometimes feel very connected to someone's posts and want to say, "me too!" but with some people I stop myself before responding and will just "like" their post instead. It is easier since responding can lead to discussions and I am not always sure if I want to have a full discussion in public.
It doesn't matter how many friend invites I get on FB because I always feel people there just add me by reputation and know nothing about me. I can tell when I offend someone because it is usually right after a post I make where I express myself without restriction that they remove me.
The friend's list here is a bit different than there though. I don't add a lot of people but when I do it is because I enjoy reading their posts. It just so happens that when someone here adds me, it is also someone who's posts I enjoy reading, so it works out. In that way it is different than FB.
“My typology is . . . not in any sense to stick labels on people at first sight. It is not a physiognomy and not an anthropological system, but a critical psychology dealing with the organization and delimitation of psychic processes that can be shown to be typical.” —C.G. Jung
I just really don't care what other people do or how I relate to them on the ground-level, in the end. Certain things are completely absent from my perspective because I just don't participate in the social moving and bending type of stuff. It's a pain in the ass and I don't care.
@Aylen I relate to so much of your post there. Tho' I doubt you were ever sx/so
I don't think I am sx/so either. I had an insight while mixing up my nootropics today. I think my Fe can come off as social but that wasn't the insight. In enneagram I can identify with 459 more than any other tritype and in that order.
The 4 is my core type and sexual is my first instinct. I have asked people, who know me irl, and all of them agree with this. I have read some sx/so stuff that fit too but it felt lacking.
I feel my self-pres is in my 5 and my social is in my 9. They all work together and when I am overwhelmed in areas that sx 4 tend to focus on, I can shift right into 5 and focus only on my own solitary and "intellectual" pursuits and being left alone. I can become like a sp/sx 5 for a period of time. It is a coping mechanism.
When I am coming out of, I'll call it 5 sp mode, I go into so/sx/so 9 for a VERY brief period before returning to my usual 4 sx/sp way of expression. It is a cycle I have noticed but never put a label on before. This feels right for now but I may change my mind if there are further developments.
https://oceanmoonshine9.wordpress.com/
Thanks, I think your post sparked the insight.
“My typology is . . . not in any sense to stick labels on people at first sight. It is not a physiognomy and not an anthropological system, but a critical psychology dealing with the organization and delimitation of psychic processes that can be shown to be typical.” —C.G. Jung
Well... uhhhmm... it's hard to answer. It's one of those things anybody can copy, you know? You say you don't have facebook, you say you're shy and introverted, then you see other people already amping it up to claim they're outright autistic. It's something with the U.S. culture nowadays that I'd call the "exhaustion of the entertainment." You see it in indie music videos, you see it in the "lumberjack hipsters"... nobody is really owning up their extroversion, their sociality. And most of all, nobody takes online friendships, online socialization as de facto instances of being social!
I'm a 6 (too) so I do think one close friends circle is not enough. But I guess I have to admit being guilty about not really trying hard... or being picky... or I dunno. I just have these strong reactions when it comes to people. There are a few beautiful moments that I cherish in my memory. When I was in a state of flow with people, with a group out there on the green, playing. I actually had a social childhood and I really miss those moments. I've never wanted to be an outcast, a rebel, whatnot. I've never wanted to be stuck-up, cold or snotty. I really want to find my people. People used to be heaven, we have pictures in the photo album with all the kids from the apartments invited to my birthday party. I remember us huddling together when watching a film or playing a video game on my first computer. It really was something. I don't know what's with these days. No more fire at the camp site. No more warmth, no more love. What has happened here, people?? Why does everyone have to be so damn special, so damn cynical?? On their smartphones all the time. Millenial asswipes.
No, I want love, I want friends, I want safety... it's just that it's becoming harder and harder to imagine what it was like, how good it really was. I want the green, I want the laughter, I want the innocence and hope for the future.
Except for impaired empathy, an ordinary guy who's looking for down-to-earth, loving, loyal friends and a geeky, warm, voluptuous girlfriend!
I have zero respect for organizations and group culture. Like people who want to be part of the community and shit. Join the school board. Just dumb shit. It is also power seeking. It makes them feel important and they want to influence the community, which makes them my natural enemy.
I noticed a lot of people feel bigger in a group. I feel smaller. I feel it takes away from me. I want to be big and have room to fit my bigness. I swear that some people get off on being small. On being dissolved in the morass. They crave it. They jerk off that the universe is so big and we are insignificant. Think about that. They find joy in their insignificance. In their smallness. A bunch of small people do not add up to a great person.
I despise people who think they speak for anyone but them self. The arrogance to claim you speak for so many. Take the Me Too movement for example. The leader or founder is often cited as some authority figure on an issue that countless people have experienced. They anoint themselves as some kind of moral authority. These people become big through small people they stand on.
"And in those days shall men seek death, and shall not find it, and shall desire to die, and death shall flee from them."