A. SPIRITUAL (Schizoid)
Gifts: You have the gift of an intellectual. This can be very helpful in many types of careers so it is important that you pick a career that will use this gift. Many healers, health professionals, professors, religious leaders, and researchers have this personality type. You also have the gift of being able to connect to wisdom and guidance from spirit. Your inner voice of direct knowing is strong and you have psychic gifts waiting for you if you chose to use them.
Ego Based False Sense of Self: You don’t believe you are real and safe here on earth or safe in the physical body. It also can be terrifying for you to be seen. In a corporate job, this may result in employers not noticing you and possibly passing you over for promotions. Much of the time, you aren’t present enough to be valued by authority and you can find it hard to connect on a deep emotional level with other people because you stay in your head and intellectualize everything. You had young prenatal or post natal trauma and a feeling of anger from your mother or danger (even if it had nothing to do with you personally.) People with this character structure often had past lives servitude, pain and torture and leaving the body was a way they could escape.
Unhealthy Defensive Patterns/Beliefs To Overcome: You will subconsciously say, I will leave you before you leave me. You will withdrawal, escape, disassociate or run away from a situation before it gets difficult.
Relationship/Career Challenges to Overcome: In this defence, you will reject the other before you feel they will reject you so if you let this personality type’s defences be in charge of your life choices, you may want to leave your partner (or job) prematurely instead of trying to resolve the difficulty. Because of the terror Spiritual types feel in their body and on earth, in a relationship/career, they are reluctant to stay present when times get tough. Yet this is vital for you to learn to stay present because if you run away from your challenges, you will miss the lessons they are meant to teach.
Life Lessons/Solutions:
• Call in the gifts of the leader personality type to help you stay present enough to resolve conflicts instead of withdrawal, disassociate or run away.
• Develop the skills to create your own internal safety by bringing your Core Being (spiritual wholeness) into your body as both a physical sensation, concept of self and emotion of joy and safety.
• Incarnate your Core Being and wisdom fully into your body.
• Overcome your feelings of terror and learn to manifest your dreams from deep authentic presence.
• Move through your fear of being seen and of being fully present. Do this by reprogramming the young pre and post natal wounding this personality type experienced.
• Move out of your intellectual understanding and learn to feel emotions and joy in the physical body. This will help you really connect with others in both your career and personal relationships.
• Discover how to live from the deeper truth of your Core Being and not your programmed personality traits and defenses.
B. COMPASSIONATE (Oral)
Gifts: You have an immense capacity to care deeply about the world, people, animals, and the environment. You embody the gift of empathy and compassion. You understand others’ pain and have a great capacity to love in a deep and profound manner. Typical professions of this personality type include: human resources, health care workers, mothers, and others in helping or environmentally conscious professions. You have great creative flow and can advance in the arts and sciences.
Ego Based False Sense of Self: Your ability to feel empathy for others is in part because of the pain and wounding you experienced in this life. You can easily relate to people who feel insecure, imperfect, lost, hopeless and not enough because you often feel this way too. Because these feelings are so strong, you risk collapsing into the energetic charge and abyss these negative feelings create in you. You too often need someone else’s energy to fill you up and you desperately want to feel full all the time. Your brain’s neuro-network gets programmed to rely on others (or other things) to fill you up or pull you out of your own negative thoughts and feelings. This need for others to verify your self-worth can dominate your life and prevent you from creating positive change. Because you can be needy, it can push others away. Depression can come when you feel not enough, alone or not full. You don’t want others to abandon you, yet you habitually abandon yourself by relying on someone (thing) else to meet your needs. This personality type can find itself lost to food, drug, alcohol, love, and/or sex addictions. Your childhood wounding can often be linked back to a feeling of abandonment or rejection by a primary care figure in your life.
Unhealthy Defensive Patterns/Beliefs To Overcome: You hook into another’s energy field to suck their energy and to fill you up. Your field tends to be chronically undercharged and you fail to learn how to charge it yourself. Your eyes will even vacuum up the others energy, pleading, wanting, hoping for them to give to you. You may also talk in a very quiet voice so you draw people’s energy into you. Your chakras and brain’s neuro-network develop in a manner to take from the outside world instead of give to self.
Relationship/Career Challenges to Overcome: Because you need another’s energy to fill you up, people who tend to be co-dependent/caretakers (Heart-Centered) are more likely to include you in their life. This can lead to employers/friends/lovers eventually becoming resentful and angry toward you because of how much they have given you. Other people/employers tend to avoid choosing you as employee, friend or lover. Some people who hold this personality type will begin a relationship by caretaking the other, trying to make them strong enough to eventually take care of them. This is called the compensated/compassionate because they overcompensate for their internal feelings of inadequacy in hope of pleasing another with the hope they will be loved in return and never abandoned.
Life Lessons/Solutions:
• Master the ability to seek nourishment from within and use external support only as a supplement to your own internal power and positive sense of self (Core Being).
• Reprogram your brain’s habituated pattern so you don’t need external confirmation of your value. You must also re-pattern your brain so you no longer collapse into emotional pain and feelings of not being enough. In body-centered psychotherapy, this brain pattern is called going dorsal. Exercise, combined with doing deep, body-energy centered personal transformation work can change your internal programming so you never abandon yourself. As you program the negative aspects of this personality type, you will better embrace your amazing gifts and strengths.
• Trust that as you learn to show up for yourself, the universe will respond and provide abundance in return.
• Discover then transform any addictive tendencies - be they food, sex, drugs/alcohol, anxiety, depression or other issue.
• Discover how to live from the deeper truth of your Core Being and not your programmed personality traits and defenses.
C. LEADER (Psychopath)
Gifts: You are a true, magnetic, inspiring leader, natural director, CEO, president or entrepreneur. You can inspire others, are innovative and are often years ahead of your peers. In your close relationships, you take charge of planning activities and in directing where the relationship will go. You take an active role in solving your friends, family and partner’s problems. You easily create a long-term plan for both your life and your work and can set the sails toward success.
Ego Based False Sense of Self: You can manipulate and control others, even lie. You may be motivated by power and control over others through bulling, seduction, or other less positive tactics. You want to win yet you have difficulty trusting and can feel betrayed and defeated. Everything becomes a battle you must win. This can hold you back because a part of you is constantly at war.
Unhealthy Defensive Patterns/Beliefs To Overcome: There is a catch 22 type of conundrum you face that can hold you back. You feel you can’t trust, because you have been betrayed. Yet, if you don’t trust, you can’t overcome your unhealthy defensive patterns and beliefs. It is important to learn that if someone else is right, it doesn’t make you wrong or defeated. Learn to surrender the fight and defense and replace it with authentic confidence and leadership. Discover the truth that as a leader, there will always be someone that will let you down or betray you, but that doesn’t mean you should attack them. We all are just evolving, learning and growing. And although you will sometimes experience defeat, if it teaches you something, you will succeed in the long term. Change your inner worldview away from needing to constantly fight a battle, control or manipulate in order to win.
Relationship/Career Challenges to Overcome: In a competitive corporate environment you might thrive. Yet, if you take that same approach into your personal relationships you could create an unsafe and aggressive home environment. In other words, don’t need to be right or fight Surrender the sword and let another person take charge, even sometimes win. Losing doesn’t have to mean defeat or that you are bad. And if someone disagrees with what you say, it doesn’t mean betrayal. Learn to trust and discover that even your strongest supporters may at times feel they need to disagree or turn their backs on you. When this happens, realize it is only change and discover the lesson the difficulty was meant to teach you. Awaken to acknowledge that life/relationships are not battlegrounds where the other person must submit to you.
Life Lessons/Solutions:
• Learn to trust others, while acknowledging they still might sometimes disagree with you or go against what you want them to do, feel or believe.
• Learn that surrender DOES NOT mean give up. It takes more power to surrender than it does to continue to fight and be defensive, controlling or manipulative.
• In relationships, encourage your partner to stand up to you and speak his or her truth. Then listen to the wisdom they may bring.
• Embrace your honesty, integrity and other gifts.
• Know that you are not bad if you make a mistake. Mistakes allow you to learn, grow and evolve. After all, you can’t learn if you never make a mistake. Mistakes show you the pathway to higher consciousness.
• Discover how to live from the deeper truth of your Core Being and not your programmed personality traits and defenses.
D. HEART-CENTERED (Masochist)
Gifts: You care about others and are selfless. You are a gifted mediator, compassionate and full of joy and laughter.
Ego Based False Sense of Self: The wounding of this character structure is that of being controlled or invaded. You may have feelings of being trapped, not able to express yourself or controlled. This is because you have experienced trauma/wounding either in this life or past lives. Your attempts to move out of the cultural norm brought disapproval or shame upon you, so even today you may blame others for your lack of freedom and disempowered self-authority. Your parents may have loved you deeply but they merged with you and attempted to control your thoughts, actions and mood. Your essence was stolen from you. Your mother or father could be dominating and sacrificial. As a result, you too often feel like you must save those around you so you sacrifice yourself to save another. Unfortunately, this tendency for care taking and codependency is not healthy. No one has the power to save someone else, even someone we love very much. (Similar to the analogy, You can lead a horse to water but can’t make him drink .) This can set you up for failure and zap your energy so there isn’t enough left over to save yourself. As a result, you can feel like a victim. You too often feel trapped in the same old negative relationship or career cycle.
Unhealthy Defensive Patterns/Beliefs To Overcome: The neurological programming of going dorsal must be shifted so you master the ability to move forward in your life and overcome feelings of being trapped, victimized or controlled. You hold your anger deep inside and only when you find yourself giving too much (or feeling invaded/taken advantage of) do you finally release it. Because you lack autonomy and are afraid to act on your own, you stay hidden or try to get permission from others to come out. You must shift the sense of inertia and humiliation you hold deeply hidden within. You hold the negative belief, I will hurt myself before they hurt me. As a result, you can find yourself in negative addictive patterns (such as drugs, food, alcohol, sex...)
Relationship/Career Challenges to Overcome: Learn to set boundaries with other people both at work and in intimate relationships. It is vital you learn to make your energy field less porous and create more structure in your auric field so you don’t take on the negative energy around you. Doing this will also give you the energy you need to move out of the stuck feelings that can hold you back. An unhealthy relationship dynamic you must stop is that you often give too much or encourage someone to invade you, just so you are pushed to finally release the anger held deep inside. This release of anger and lack of strong boundaries is your saboteur in both your professional and personal life. Learn to express your feelings instead of holding them in.
Life Lessons/Solutions:
• The brain’s programming of having high dorsal tone can shut you down. Receive the support to overcome your brain’s negative programming so you move forward in your life and feel free. This will help you move out of your feelings of being trapped, controlled and unable to express yourself. Exercise and deep personal transformation work will help shift this energy in both your brain and your body.
• Commit to the positive belief, I am never a victim and I can free myself
• Set stronger boundaries with people both at work and home.
• Give to others only from your overflow so you don’t over give.
• Become your own authority and the CEO of your life. Know that you are in charge of what happens to you and you create your own value.
• Learn to transform the energy of anger held deep inside so it becomes personal power and strength. This will bring you a sense of freedom you never thought was possible.
• Learn to become your own authority so you can feel all your emotions and not hold them in. Also, don’t let your emotions define your value, your worth or the true assessment of what is happening. Emotions are energy and they often don’t represent the deeper truth.
• Stop creating negative interactions with people just so you are forced to release your anger or to justify why you feel trapped, like a victim.
• Heal any addictions you may have.
• Discover how to live from the deeper truth of your Core Being and not your programmed personality traits and defenses.
E. EXCEL (Ridged)
Gifts: You excel at whatever you do. You accomplish a lot and succeed. Your body and energy field is often beautiful and balanced. You can take charge and fix problems easily. Employers feel lucky to have you on their team.
Ego Based False Sense of Self: You often have many degrees, accomplishments and certificates to prove your value. Yet inside yourself, you aren’t authentically connected to your Core Being. You lack authenticity, deny emotional issues and imperfections and are very judgemental of others’ mistakes and imperfections. You can be very mechanical and stilted because you are not really connected to the flow of your essence. Instead you focus on making the outer world look perfect. And, if your house of cards falls, you do your best to prop it up again because of this drive to be perfect. So if someone shows you an imperfect part, you will either get angry and attack or deny the personality parts that don’t fit into your idealized self-image. Feeling of love in your heart aren’t connected to your sexual expression.
Unhealthy Defensive Patterns/Beliefs To Overcome: You want to be perfect and be appropriate. Your life task is to acknowledge when you are messy and imperfect, yet still feel whole and complete because you are so connected to your authentic Core Being.
The negative belief that sabotages you is: either choice is wrong. You feel this way because you don’t every want to want to make a wrong choice. The defensive reaction to difficulty is to become even more perfect, or you blame others, control and attack. You also control yourself so you don’t show your emotions. Yet as a result of this practice, you can hold anxiety deep inside. Your energy field is overly structured without much flow. You feel that messy emotions might make you look or feel imperfect.
Relationship/Career Challenges to Overcome: You are the perfect employee. You excel at everything you do and work hard. Yet, if you make a mistake, it can cause deep anxiety and a disregulated nervous system. As you learn to connect to your authentic Core Being, you will be able to relax, even when you are messy and imperfect. In relationships, you can be Pollyanna to those around you and not feel real or be real with others. You are often judgmental when others don’t meet your unrealistic standards. Inintimate relationships, don’t tend to connect your feelings of love (heart chakra) with your sexual energy (2nd Chakra). You keep them separate or compartmentalized.In your marriage or partnership, you will work hard to be the perfect partner. And if your partner is having problems, you will work hard to fix them so they too are perfect. However, you can’t fix anyone except yourself…so, if your partner doesn’t change, you will be reluctant to end the relationship. This is because you think that if you end it, you have given up and failed. It is important you don’t stay in a relationship just to keep up appearances or because you think you should be perfect enough to fix it.
Life Lessons/Solutions:
• Connect heart feelings (4th chakra to 2nd Chakra energy) to sexuality.
• Discover the flow of your authentic self and move out of the plastic mask you show to the world.
• Discover that if you are imperfect, it doesn’t make you or anyone else less than.
• Learn how to be messy, imperfect and yet still whole because you are connected to your Core Being. This will help you overcome the negative belief, Either choice is wrong.
• Learn to accept others imperfections without feeling you are better than they are.
• Don’t work harder than your partner to help him or her. You can’t ever be perfect enough to fix them just as the saying goes, You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make him drink.
• Discover how to live from the deeper truth of your Core Being and not your programmed personality traits and defences.