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Dual type (as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
Hi, wacey.
Hitting is not allowed. For one thing, it represents a failure of the imagination of the parents to find a more appropriate method of correcting behavior, and what is worse, it teaches the kid that using violence to get what you want is OK, and so creates more ENTJ's, and Lord knows, the world probably has enough of them as it is.
At least, that's how it worked for me.
My apologies, wacey. Sometimes sarcasm is lost on me. Never in person, though!
But, my inability to judge subtleties aside, hitting kids (or spouses) really is an important topic to me. When my ex and I learned she was pregnant, we started talking about how to raise our little Biff (placeholder name). Because this was the way I was raised, I said, We've go to hit the kids. Otherwise, they won't obey. She said, We're not hitting the kid. I said, You don't understand, it you don't hit the kid, they will do bad things. She said, We're not hitting the kid.
At this point, I mentally reviewed the way my family had turned out, and compared it to the way her family had turned out, and decided We're not hitting the kid. Which was very challenging to put into practice, because we had to go to a lot of extra effort to guide him toward good behavior, using "consequences" and "patience" and "hoping that the kid is smart enough to draw the correct conclusions from this". In other words, treating the kid like an adult.
It must have worked. He's not been in jail yet, which beats my record.
Violence just teaches people to be violent.
Little by little, we improve.
Last edited by Adam Strange; 10-25-2015 at 01:43 PM.