I think what she's saying is to live in fear of manipulation is to be afraid of your own shadow essentially... which is true but discounts like you pointed out that actual manipulation occurs, however inasmuch as everyone manipulates what is at issue is malevolence not really "manipulation" since "manipulation" can be welcome in its benevolent form. the idea that everyone manipulates, in the bad sense, is a form of pathological fear (lack of trust) in everyone, i.e.: paranoia