Originally Posted by
Agni
I don't agree ... sx/so is sexy in a raw, immediate, and in-your-face way. Something visceral and unambiguous. Sexy in a more showy and maybe more elaborate way - sx second (the exhibitionism of the second instinct). Sx/sp is usually more invested in stuff like make-up, clothes, fashion, hairstyle, jewelry etc. ... ways to support and meet the demands of the primary instinct. At least that's how I've often seen sp support manifest. In men ...more as it was explained before, displays of fortitude, resistance, survival.
I guess when I think of sexy I think of what you call the "showy and elaborate" way. Kind of like when someone is trying really hard, like a porn star (I kinda doubt porn stars are often sx first - they would not be satisfied doing porn
). I do think, and I think you'd agree, that sx first types are the most deeply sexual people you'll meet. But it is such a part of how they relate to others, they don't need to flaunt it (I think Aylen said something similar). Sx first people can't help being Sexual - they can't 'turn it off,' (as an Sp/Sx could, if for example, they suddenly obtained the material security they needed). I talk about this problem with my sx/sp friend: she mourns the fact that her level of sexuality is profoundly awkward at times. She'll just walk into a room, and feel sexual energy emanating from her, and is not sure how to deal with it. lol.
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