While I am at it
To Icepick (love your posts too),
I think you really believe that INFJs cut people off as a means of emotionally manipulating them. I would like to assure you that it is not, it is more a sort of self-protection. If I cut someone off -which you are quite right we do sometimes, it is usually as a result of observing certain kinds of behaviour in him/her over quite sometime then deciding that this might be the best way to deal with the situation. I am sometimes overtly assertive and discuss the issue that is upsetting me with others depending on the issue and the person but then other times I make the judgement based on certain factors that a confrontation is probably un-necessary and counter productive, I am both flexible and self controlled like that. I find editing out certain people where possible to be extremely effective at getting them out of my life temporarily or permanently- again for my own good and quite possibly theirs as well. I am reasonably sure that some people will be bullshiters now and always. I am not very good at dealing with bullshit from people and I will eventually rid myself from it and them one way or another.[/b]