Originally Posted by
anndelise
I read an article somewhat recently that pointed out that daydreaming is harmful in the sense of providing the brain/bodily systems with the rewards of an activity/goal without the effort/skill development to bring it into reality. And that when people who regularly day dream about those rewards finally try to implement them, lacking the experience, knowledge, skill required, they get frustrated too easily by even small setbacks, or small errors. Normally overcoming or learning from those mistakes and setbacks are what leads us to success in our goal, but day dreaming allows us to bypass that work, thereby stunting our progress.
One thing that might help is exercise. Something that requires her to focus on the physicalness of reality and doesn't allow for daydreaming. For example, walking and running encourage a wandering mind, but super slowly lifting weights forces the mind to focus on the here and now and the body's response signals. Or maybe learn some dance moves. The idea is to build focus and concentration.
Finding other activities she finds engaging, interesting, and is curious about is another thing that might help. If the activity engages her then she won't be inclined to day dream as she'll be too interested in what she is doing. If she is curious about it, then it's easier to develop the skill of learning from mistakes/errors. What does she want to learn/do? If her answer is for external validation (which seems to be what her daydreams are about), or some future result/reward, then she needs to look for a different reason, something more internally rewarding as she's pursuing it.
And working on mindfulness. Maybe initially a band on wrist she can use to snap herself back to reality and spend a bit of time not thinking, just being in the moment. Initially it might be only a few seconds, but throughout her day she'll eventually see the band on her wrist again, snap it, and be reminded to practice mindfulness. If she develops the habit of snapping it as a trigger to be in the moment, her subconscious might start snapping it when she's day dreaming to say hey...we need to focus here.