Aw. Have been having a hormonal week. This made my day.
I have not found my ILE hotspot. However, a few recent epiphanies:
I realized suddenly that this one guy that I met this one time who responded quite badly to my advances was probably some sort of mysteriously E5ish IEE, and not ILE. Everything makes sense now. (I was trying to make Fi-PoLR jokes to engage him.) It was super embarrassing actually; it was in a group of awesome strangers, I went way outside of my normal comfort zone to Fe like a manic pixie something or another, aggressively hitting on this unfortunate dude who had very little response. Being a so-4 (social shame), I have replayed this scene in my mind way more times than I should have (like every day for a year), and I believe that it was shoddy knowledge of socionics that led me astray, b/c, truthfully, I would never have done that if I hadn't been trying to get the attention of someone who I thought was my "dual." But the flip side is I am probably not as bad with real ILE's, and that maybe you don't have to behave like a manic pixie nightmare something to get them.
I realized a guy I've casually been friends with for years is ILE, and not LII. But it's a good sign; this is an ILE friend I made way before learning socionics! It means you can gravitate towards people you can have good conversations with without all this extra socionics stuff (!) It's a friendship I've always valued actually, just b/c we seemed so different and he seemed much smarter than me but we always shared about books we had read.
Anyway, thank you for reminding me that none of us have to be anything more than we are to prove ourselves deserving of "love," romantic or otherwise. It's always good to remember.
Edit: Or you know. I could still be an idiot who should try to purge socionics from my system (although it's hard.) But either way, I found the message uplifting.